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Stag Dos. These days there’s so much more to them than simply hitting as many Jager Bomb serving bars as possible in a short space of time then eating foul tasting kebabs and waking up chained to a lamp-post. Nowadays you’re more likely to end up travelling abroad and hitting slightly more continental tequila serving bars, finishing the night off with something that looks like a kebab but turns out to be horse and waking up handcuffed to the Eiffel Tower. But for those looking for something even more different a new trend is emerging: The TV Themed Stag Do.

Now fear not brave stags, this doesn’t mean staying in and watching a few episodes of Countryfile over a glass of Chardonay, there’s all kinds of TV inspired Stag Do ideas out there for even the craziest of Stags. So we reckon it’s time we hand the blog over to the Stag and Hen experts to give you the run-down of what you can get up to!

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Forget awkward lamppost encounters and terrible decisions with electric razors, the modern man’s stag do is now far more likely to imitate his favourite TV show. Whether it’s an action-packed weekend paying homage to Jack Bauer or spending a night in a zombie infested bunker á la Rick Grimes, there is a growing trend for TV themed weekends. Here’s our favourite rundown of TV inspired weekend ideas:

The Walking Dead 

With series five starting in October, there’s a palpable Walking Dead fever in the air. Horror activities have enjoyed a massive boom this decade, with ‘Zombie Actor’ now a recognised profession that’s in surprisingly high demand. There are zombie races, where terrifying looking actors chase you through fields at night; zombie battles are a regular occurrence in Greenwich and entrepreneurs have overtaken abandoned warehouses and malls to create completely immersive horror activities. Zombie Boot Camp gives a full background and plot to people who take part, with convincing spoof news dating back to 2010 about virus outbreaks and Government call to arms. The experience even includes an overnight stay in military accommodation!  To keep even the alcohol consumption zombie themed, there’s a genuine ‘Walker’ beer available from Dock Street Brewery that’s made with smoked goats’ brains.

Ice Bar London (Game of Thrones)

Game of Thrones 

If the ‘Bedding’ wedding ritual is anything to go by, we dread to think of the hijinks involved in a Game of Thrones stag do ceremony, especially if Tyrion Lannister and Littlefinger were involved (and you know they would be). However in real life, Game of Thrones inspired stag activities include escapades beyond the wall with tours of the Icelandic film set locations. You can recreate the atmosphere in London though with a trip to the London Ice Bar or imagine yourself scaling the wall like Jon Snow himself with an abseiling adventure in Edinburgh or the Brecon Beacons.

Playboy Weekend (Geordie Shore)

Geordie Shore 

Love or hate the reality show, the antics of the Geordie Shore cast have played no small part in the rejuvenation of tourism in Newcastle. Newcastle is now deemed to be one of the most popular UK cities for a stag break thanks to the program showcasing the free-spirited and unpretentious Geordie nightlife.  You can easily experience a night out that would make Gaz and the rest of the Buck Squad proud with ready-made city break bundles like the Big Geordie Shore Playboy Weekend, which includes two nights’ accommodation, a party bus, brewery tour, nude life drawing class and a night out with Newcastle’s finest Bunny Girls!

Shooting Days (24)

24: Live Another Day 

Time to get serious; Jack Bauer has no time for Bunny Girls. The latest instalment of 24, Live Another Day, was set in London and included action of epic proportions (Wembley Stadium was destroyed with hijacked missiles and Bauer had no less than 39 on-screen kills throughout the series!) There are plenty of ways to recreate some of the heart-racing stunts on a 24 themed weekend in London, from leaping tall buildings with a Free Running session to speeding down the Thames on an RIB boat tour. If you want to get as trigger happy as Jack does, head over to Riga, Krakow or Tallin for a whole number of high octane experiences, from handgun and AK47 shooting packages through to SWAT training and tandem parachute jumps, (all available through Maximise).

Las Vegas Pool Party (Entourage)

Entourage 

Get your bromance on with an Entourage themed break in Los Angeles. For guys looking to tread the same steps as Vincent Chase, a trip to LA is hard to beat – you can visit the Paramount and Warner Bros. studios, parade down Santa Monica beach and party at the Crazy Girls Stripclub where the guys went to make Drama feel better in season one. You can even eat at the same restaurants as the Entourage men with the Entourage Restaurant Map which pinpoints every LA venue used in the show, from Harold & Belle’s on W. Jefferson Blvd where Turtle and Jamie-Lynn get Jambalaya, to the Village Pizzeria in Beverley Hills where Eric gets messed about by Seth Green. For some real Entourage glamour, head over to Las Vegas where stag groups can easily book in a helicopter tour before getting VIP entry to the clubs and cooling down at exclusive pool parties.

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BvG 1000

Over the weekend Bride Vs Groom reached something of a landmark – we’re proud to say we have now published over 1000 posts on our little blog!! That’s 1000 articles of top tips and advice, weekly debates on all the hot wedding questions, entries from our own wedding diary, some occasional nonsense from our gormless groom and of course regular updates from the self declared most important member of the BvG family: Small Dog. When we first started writing about our own wedding and a few articles we thought might help from our experiences as professional “wedding insiders” we had no idea that we’d still be writing away 1000 posts later and nor did we expect such a phenomenal response from our amazing readers. We hope you continue to find Bride Vs Groom a useful resource and we’d like to thank all of our incredible guest contributors who have provided their help and expertise, not least some of our regular writers like Bhavna Barratt, Holly Jazz Kotzé, Helen Guy, Simply Bridal and all the awesome photographers and videographers who have allowed us to share their work over the last two and a half years. There’s definitely no way we could have managed to publish (at least) one article every day alongside running our own businesses without your expert help!! We’d also like to thank the unbelievably talented Emily Pithon for creating our beloved illustrations that were at the heart of what we wanted Bride Vs Groom to be.

This blog is very much a labour of love, thanks for sticking with us and inspiring us to keep on producing the blog for the baffled bride and groom.

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So much planning goes into a wedding day yet it’s so often the unplanned moments, the completely spontaneous surprises that are so often our favourites. Today’s story frame definitely falls into that category as our uber-cute page boy decided that so long as rings were being given out he wanted in on the action! It was a perfect moment and one that brought a smile to everyone’s faces, not least our gorgeous bride!

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The wedding ring: a symbol of unending love and unity and of the commitment you have made to one another. But whilst most couples do exchange rings as part of their wedding ceremony, many men in particular choose not to wear them afterwards. But is it really important to keep wearing that symbol at all times or once you’ve made that commitment is it best to keep that ring in a safe place rather than wear it day to day?

Time to put it to the debate!

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In the Red Corner, arguing for the wedding ring to be worn day in, day out, but then she is a big Lord of the Rings Fan, it’s Dom “The Tog Bride”

In the Blue Corner, putting forth the arguments for why it’s fine to only wear it for special occasions, particularly since after wearing it every day he was shocked on one occasion to find it missing, only to discover it inches from the drain in the shower, it’s Matt “The Gormless Groom”

Mens Rings – To Wear or Not to Wear
FIGHT!!!

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Dom: If the wedding ring is supposed to be an outward symbol of the commitment you have made to one another then surely it should be there for all to see at all times, otherwise its purpose is lost.

Matt: But the commitment you’re making is far bigger than a ring, not wearing it every day doesn’t mean that you’re any less committed to the other person it’s just a personal preference.

Dom: Permanently wearing something that says “hands-off” to other women is a strong sign of your commitment to be faithful only to your wife.

Matt: But if a husband lacked that level of commitment he would simply take the ring off when someone showed interest anyway. Surely a stronger display of your love is to actually have to tell someone you’re taken when they’re showing interest rather than wear something to warn people off in the first place.

Dom: Women are always expected to wear their wedding ring and are likely to be asked if something’s wrong when they don’t wear it. Why should this be different for men?

Matt: It shouldn’t be different, it’s also completely the woman’s choice whether she wants to wear a ring or not and surely she would only be questioned about it if she normally wore it every day and then suddenly stopped?

Dom: Men don’t tend to wear as much jewellery as women so for a man who doesn’t like jewellery to commit to wearing a ring every day for his wife is quite special.

Matt: But because men are often less used to wearing jewellery they’re probably more likely to lose or damage it. Mens rings tend to be bulkier and more plain than women’s and therefore very easy to scratch and ruin the look of.

Dom: Wedding rings are a great reminder of your partner and when you’re feeling down or lonely being reminded of your wedding day and that person who loves you so much can be a great way of cheering yourself up!

Matt: Some men are just too worried about damaging or losing their wedding ring and would therefore rather keep it locked away safely and only wear it on special occasions. This doesn’t mean it’s any less important to them, in fact it means it’s so important they want to protect it!

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So those are our thoughts but where do you stand? Will you be wearing your wedding ring day in day out? Place your vote in our poll below or leave a comment to join the debate!

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Bhavna Profile PicFusion weddings also known as Anglo-Indian weddings are on the increase both in the UK and around the globe. Mainly as couples of different faiths meet at work or university and as the world is generally more accepting of interfaith marriages now then ever before.

I’m married to a Yorkshireman (I KNOW!) myself, we had a Hindu wedding in Tanzania followed by an English reception in the UK, we didn’t however ‘fuse’ the cultures per se, because it was all very new to both of us and we didn’t really have any concerns over how the wedding should be planned, we just went with the flow and let my parents decide what should happen.  To me it was the perfect day but for Tom may be not so much as it was daunting and overwhelming, there were large number of guests and many he didn’t know. I could have prepared him better.

Needless to say there are some things that I would do differently now, especially after being to so many fusion weddings as a photographer.

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If you’re planning a big fat fusion wedding, there are a few things you should consider.

As a couple you need to decide how your want to celebrate your union and then decide what part of the ceremonies you want to make your own or if you just want to have more than one ceremony. So forexample I have a couple who replaced the Hindu wedding ceremony with their own version, so the seven steps were literally seven steps they took towards the wedding stage and at each step they were greeted by a member of the family giving them a blessing appropriate to that step.

Alternatively you can have for example, a Church ceremony on one day and the traditional Indian wedding on another day, I have had one bride who had the church ceremony in the morning, followed by a Hindu wedding ceremony in the afternoon and then a reception thereafter, this can be a long day for all parties involved and the timing can be really tight, we were left with very little time for the couple portraits for instance, so consider splitting the days and giving each celebration its own day.

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There will be many challenges when trying to blend the cultures together and you can face pressure from the family, such as when you are trying to arrange how the evening reception will work, you might want to just cut the cake, but family pressure and South Asian tradition means you have to also feed that cake you’ve just cut to the parents and siblings and grandparents…this may be something that you as a modern fusion couple are not happy to do, but you’ll have to think of compromises.

Your biggest compromise will come with it comes to the number of guests to invite, Asian weddings are large and non-Asian weddings not so large, the whole number of guests things is one of the most stressful parts of planning any weddings not just a fusion wedding, be reasonable and negotiate with your parents on what the ideal number of guests would be for a fusion wedding.

With this will come the challenge of costs. This is why some couples will have a full day, everything in one, as described above at one venue. Alternatively you can negotiate deals with venues to hire them out for two consecutive days so you can celebrate the different cultures on different days. But having two sets of everything will be costly.

Planning a fusion wedding means you need to plan ahead, like lots more ahead then normal, its like planning two weddings so you need to make sure you give it the time that is needed.  Hire a wedding planner, this is a huge investment but you wont regret it, all the weddings I have been to where there is a wedding planner if not for the whole but for part of the celebrations, it has made a huge difference in the way the day has panned out and also in terms of how relaxed the couple have been.

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One of the most important things though is to make sure that both families are engaged in each others cultures. That both parties feel involved and welcome.

At a recent fusion wedding I photographed the bride who was Hindu and the groom who was English had a great mix of food. They had both traditional Gujarati food fused with a touch of English food (Who doesn’t like a bit of fish and chips eh?). They hired both an English band and an Indian DJ who played alongside and created an amazing atmosphere, the party was pretty epic.

Similarly, if for instance the grooms family have no idea what happens at a Ganesh Puja or Grah Shanti, inviting them to the brides function would be a good alternative, the couple can then sit and do the puja together and the priest can explain what is happening and the significance of it, I particularly love when both bride and groom are present at a pithi ceremony, yikes, its brilliant fun.

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When it comes to the ceremony itself, hire a priest who can explain the ceremony to the guests and the couples families. If it’s a Hindu wedding give out some scrolls that have the ceremony explained in simple words for the guests, if it’s a Sikh wedding get one of the speakers to explain in English what is going to happen at the ceremony for example.

Communication is another vital part of the day, you need to tell each other and your families how you feel and also ask how they feel and how things are going, its easy for one side to feel neglected when there is so much going on and feel left out if the decisions are not being passed by them too.  Ask for the respective family’s opinions but don’t forget to add your own sparkle too.

Trying to combine two sets of cultures, traditions and family expectations can be daunting, but don’t let this get to you and remember the day is about the two of you, so make sure you have incorporated little touches that are about you and this can be the hardest part. Just remember it will be worth the party, so much partying and as a bride you get to wear numerous amounts of beautiful outfits!

Just remember to eat the yummy food, dance to the epic music and kiss the person you just married, at the end of the day its about the two of you.

Off to have a cuppa tea, have a great weekend.

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