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Every bride wants to look their absolute best on their wedding day and when it comes to organising hair and makeup many brides choose to bring in the professionals to add a little glamour to the occasion. But is it really necessary to have a professional to help you achieve your perfect look or is it best for the blushing bride to become the “blusher bride”? See what we did there? Yeah I know, we’re sorry, it is Friday, cut us some slack! Anyway, time to put this one into battle!


In the Red Corner, arguing FOR bringing in a professional to help you achieve your perfect hair and makeup style ready for the wedding, in fact she very nearly brought one all the way over to the canaries for her own destination wedding but eventually had to settle for having makeup testers in pretty much every department store in the UK instead, it’s Dom “The Tog Bride”

In the Blue Corner, cowering in fear of retaliation from his many hair and makeup artist friends and eager to remind everyone that we always fight these battles impartially, presenting the strongest arguments we possibly can for our allocated side regardless of whether they represent our views or not… no really… please stop pointing that eyeliner at me… it’s Matt “The (most definitely in the case of makeup) Gormless Groom”

Hair and Makeup – Pro Vs DIY


Dom: It’s nice to do something a little different on your wedding day and make sure you’re looking your absolute best. A professional hair and makeup artist can guide you in what will work for you and make sure that everything is absolutely perfect using all their skill and expertise.

Matt: But surely your wedding day is a celebration of who you are and whilst of course you want to look beautiful in your dress, doing something completely different from how you would normally look seems to defy the whole point. Applying your own makeup the way you do day in day out but perhaps spending a little more time on it to perfect your signature look is surely a better way to go.

Dom: But when you’re nervous and anxious on your wedding morning and your mind is racing worrying about what you’ve forgotten to do, carefully applying your own makeup isn’t as easy as you might think! When brides are looking after their own hair and makeup they often leave it to the last minute rather than getting it done when the professional asks for them which can cause problems, and there’s always the possibility you might have a bit of a shaky hand if you’re nervous!

Matt: It might not be that easy to find a hair and makeup artist whose style you like and whilst many will do a makeup trial beforehand when trusting it to someone else there’s always the possibility they’ll do something you don’t like.

Dom: With a professional present your hair and makeup is just something you don’t need to worry about – you don’t need to be concerned about getting the look right or practicing profusely in the lead up to the day, you don’t need to worry about forgetting the curlers or losing your brushes, you can just leave everything in their hands knowing that whatever happens they have the skill and experience to cope with it.

Matt: But one of the big concerns for any bride is what if the suppliers are delayed or for some reason don’t get there. Whilst all true professionals build in contingency time there’s always a possibility that something could go wrong and for some brides that makes adding an extra supplier more of a concern than a blessing

Dom: On your wedding day you want to be well and truly pampered, after all this is your big day and you might as well make the most of it! It’s so much nicer to spend the morning relaxed and being looked after rather than running around trying to get everything done.

Matt: Hair and makeup artists are an additional expense on what is already a rather pricey day! If you’re on a limited budget perhaps it might be more sensible to allocate the money elsewhere.

Dom: Trying to get your own hair and makeup just perfect can be very time consuming and you’re bound to make a few mistakes. A professional knows exactly what to do and will get the job done to the same or higher standards much quicker, giving you more time to relax and enjoy your day.

Matt: But if you have lots of ladies all wanting to have their hair and makeup done and only one pro makeup artist present it can take an awful lot of time to get through everyone which could lead to delays or having to rush the makeup. If everyone is looking after their own hair and makeup (or even assisting with each other’s) surely that would mean you could get it done in far less time.

So those are our arguments but where do you stand? Leave a comment to join the debate or place your vote below!

Hair and Makeup: Pro Vs DIY




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It’s that time of the week where we look back over some of our favourite or most helpful wedding advice posts and bring them back to the fore for all those new readers and soon-to-be brides and grooms who might have missed it the first time around. Today we’d like to revisit a subject that we’re often asked about – how to look best in front of the camera for anyone who’s a little camera shy. So if you’re a little nervous in front of the camera we hope this helps to explain a little about why you should never, ever say cheese!

Having your picture taken professionally can feel really rather strange. From pretty much the moment we first start to crawl we’re told to stop dead still, look at the camera and say cheese in order to get a nice picture. The trouble is that the resulting pictures tend to be… well… cheesy!

Enter the professional photographer and the first thing they want is for you to forget about everything you’ve ever been told about having your picture taken. Instead of turning your body face on to the camera they want you to do things like turn and look at each other. Instead of staring into the lens and grinning like a cheshire cat they’ll give you instructions like “just be natural”. But what the hell is “natural” anyway? In our everyday lives we don’t stop in a fixed position we move around, we don’t force conversation with our partners, we just naturally chat. It’s a strangely forced environment and it’s very difficult to really know what to do with yourselves.

One of our wedding shots by Ed Peers

Each individual photographer will have their own style and will be looking to capture a slightly different type of shot. Sometimes they will be looking for a close in and capturing little smiles and hints of emotion, sometimes they will be shooting much wider and looking for the shape of the body and the perfect framing against a particular background. Some photographers like to capture a little bit of movement in their shots and might ask you to walk up and down a little, change your positions around or do something entirely less orthodox. Sometimes however natural they ask you to act, the thing that they’re asking you to do just isn’t going to feel natural at first. In fact it often might not feel like it’s even going to make a half decent photograph, however there’s only one real solution if you want to ensure that you do come away with some great photographs:

Have faith and Commit to the Moment.

Photoshoot with Fer Juaristi

If you’ve done your research and made sure you’ve booked the right photographer for you then hopefully you already understand what they’re about and you’ve looked through their work to find the style of portraiture they aspire to capture. If you like that style then you have to have faith that your photographer is able to create that same style for you. The other thing we’re taught about photography from a young age is that you simply stand in front of an interesting background – a landmark perhaps, or if that’s unavailable you just find somewhere nice and sunny to make the shot look pretty. Sometimes this may be true in professional photography but actually, very broadly speaking, your photographer is more likely to be seeking out what, on the face of it, looks like a very plain background (an old brick wall for example) and are more likely to look for shade than bright sunlight. Have faith that the photographer knows what they’re doing – what looks good on a professional camera may be completely different from what you’d expect. Once you have that faith it’s much easier to just go-with-the-flow and genuinely enjoy yourselves, and once you do start to genuinely enjoy it suddenly acting natural isn’t such an alien idea after all…

Photo-shoot with Nirav Patel

It’s important to remember though that with portraiture in particular your photographer can only do so much. They can offer as much direction as they like but unless you can commit to that moment and really go for it then the final image will not have the same impact. It’s a little like acting, only you’re playing the part of yourselves. The more you commit to what you’re being asked to do the more natural it begins to look and the more powerful the image will be. The photographer wants to capture your personalities and will do all they can to help bring that out of you, but they can’t control the look of love in your eyes, the coy little smile you only give each other, the way you crinkle up your nose when you laugh; these are the things that can take a photograph from simply a 2d image on a piece of paper to a masterpiece of memories full of depth, full of character and full of life – your life.

There are no real hard and fast rules about what’s going to make the best shot, it depends completely on the individual photographer, on the moment, the type of shot and on your personalities and quirks. Just enjoy the time together, forget about your preconceptions or any ideas that you’re not photogenic. Your photographer is there to make you look good – enjoy it, relax, have faith and commit to the moment. And whatever you do, don’t say cheese.

Our Civil Ceremony, Photograph by Liam Shaw

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What better way to cheer up a dreary Wednesday afternoon than to share a gorgeous Wedding film set in the beautiful surroundings of Gloucestershire’s Cripp’s Barn! Jenn & Will’s big day set in the stunning original 18th Century Cotswold Barn was clearly an amazing occasion from start to finish, just the thing to brighten up those midweek blues! So grab a cuppa, turn up the volume and hit play and enjoy Jenn & Will’s magical day captured by the always fantastic White Dress Films.

Jenn & Will


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The question of who should walk you down the aisle is not always as straight forward as it seems. Whilst traditionally it’s the role of the father of the bride to give his daughter away, many couples choose an alternative approach for a host of reasons. So today we’d like to share this great infographic from Peter Edwards Photography all about the other available options!

Peter EdwardsIG_Whoshouldgiveyouaway

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matt-avatar WhitenedWhen I was in my teens, hitting the town with my mates, the minute we reached the clubs I was THAT guy. The debonair, well-dressed sultry stranger, standing coolly beside the dance floor, probably holding a Vodka-Martini, being eyed up by all the ladies, never dancing but never needing to.

Or alternatively I was the geeky guy standing awkwardly on his own whilst everyone else danced and he looked on trying to be cool whilst unknowingly spilling half a pint of Fosters down his trousers and being laughed at by the ladies. I would never dance for fear of looking an idiot, whilst all around me my friends were waving their hands in the air like they just didn’t care, making fools of themselves but being joined regardless by the same girls I was staring pointlessly at.

It’s only in recent years that I realised the error of my ways and, admittedly augmented by alcohol, became all too happy to jump straight on the dance floor however stupid I may look, put dignity aside and make dad-dancers around the world ask “what the heck’s that guy doing?” And do you know what? It’s SO much more fun!

So often at weddings we see amazing bands and DJ’s being rewarded for their awesome performances by polite gentle clapping from the still seated guests at the tables, just a few kids twirling endlessly on the vast, empty expanse in front of the band, even the bride and groom too busy speaking to guests to find their way to the floor. But the minute everyone decides to step up on that floor the party really gets going and all of the guests start to have some real fun!

So don’t be the one waiting on the periphery, as soon as the bride and groom wave you onto the dance floor dive right in, jump, jive and shake a tail feather. Don’t be concerned by being the first, you certainly won’t be the last, but you will undoubtedly be the one having the most fun in the room. So as a wise man once said, Dance Like there’s nobody watching, love like you’ll never be hurt, Sing like there’s nobody listening and live like it’s heaven on earth.


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