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After a beautiful summer season of weddings it’s time for the magical winter period to begin, without doubt one of our favourite times of year for weddings. But with the changing of the seasons comes a change in light and weather, and so today we’re asking the big question: for a winter wedding is it better to get married earlier or later in the day? Time to introduce our expert debaters!


In the Red Corner, arguing for the morning winter wedding, although getting married earlier in the day does give us less time to convince her that a reindeer jumper is not really suitable wedding wear, it’s Dom “The Tog Bride”

In the Blue Corner, arguing for the afternoon winter wedding (well he’s in no rush to get out of bed on a chilly winter’s morning!) It’s Matt “The Gormless Groom”

Winter Weddings – Morning Vs Afternoon


Dom: The light in winter disappears fast and you can expect it to be getting dark by 4pm so the earlier you have your ceremony the more light you’re going to be able to enjoy, giving you and your guests more chances to get outside and fully experience the day.

Matt: But the chances are that in winter the weather is not going to be attractive for going outside in the cold and if that’s not an option then depending on your venue your guests can end up feeling cooped up inside. Unless you’re able to provide alternative entertainment it might be better to minimise the time spent indoors rather than maximise it.

Dom: If you’d like to have group shots or portraits outside then having your ceremony at 3pm is going to make that impossible as there simply won’t be enough light.

Matt: The real romance of winter weddings is the candlelight, the roaring fires, mulled wine and the low light of the afternoon and evening.

Dom: The light in winter can actually be really magical. Those brisk, frosty days with golden sunlight beaming down, the cold blues and gorgeous winter sunsets, if you don’t get married until late on in the day then you simply don’t have the chance to enjoy any of that.

Matt: At any time of year having your wedding ceremony in the morning can make it much more difficult for guests to get there in time, particularly when travelling longer distances. But in winter it can be particularly difficult as they may be fighting icy conditions as well. Having your wedding later in the day allows plenty of time for the dreaded winter traffic!

Dom: But if the conditions are indeed icy or even snowy then many of those guests travelling longer distances will most likely want to leave earlier to avoid travelling late at night when the weather is at its coldest and where they’re more likely to face being stranded should conditions deteriorate. By having the ceremony earlier in the day you can maximise the time spent with those guests rather than have them leave without seeing much of them.

Matt: But the earlier the day starts the more tired the guests are going to be come the evening and consequently the earlier they’re likely to leave. If most of your wedding is going to be spent with the skies dark then surely it’s better to make the most of the dark and party long into the night! If the wedding is later on then guests are more likely to decide to stay somewhere local overnight allowing you to have a good long evening reception!

Dom: A gentle frost or even snow is so beautiful in the morning light and by the afternoon the frost is often starting to melt or the light is disappearing and changing the effect.

Matt: Winter weddings allow you the opportunity for an incredibly romantic candlelit ceremony which is one of the main advantages over summer weddings due to it getting dark so much earlier. A mid-afternoon wedding allows you to make the most of that and play with creative lighting to make something truly magical.

So those are our thoughts but where do you stand? As always you can place your vote below or leave a comment to join the debate!

Winter Weddings - Morning Vs Afternoon
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  • Rob Dodsworth - November 15, 2014 - 11:49 pm

    From a photographic point of view, I’d be minded to side with Dom for the most part but Matt has some valid points. In either case, if a couple are keen on having some portraits together they would be well advised to consider either an earlier ceremony, or, alternatively, consider having their photographer capture a ‘first look’ ahead of the ceremony! Pushed to vote, I’d vote Labour…I mean Dom!ReplyCancel

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It’s “Throwback Thursday” once again (wow, time really does fly doesn’t it!) and, after Dom “The Tog” has this week been busy giving talks all about wedding photography, today we thought we’d bring back a topic that featured heavily: the changes in the industry that have happened over time and of course the biggest game changer in town: the internet. So here’s one or two thoughts on the matter that we first published this time last year…

For years wedding photography held a relatively lowly status in the eyes of the professional photography community. It was considered too commercial, uninventive and bizarrely thought of as an easy path, despite the evidence pointing to the fact that wedding photographers were under far more pressure and having to work much longer hours than, say landscape or fine art photographers. Perhaps it was simply the stigma of working in a fairly lucrative industry or perhaps it was the fact that back then wedding photographers worked primarily in their local area and were rarely seen on a national stage, allowing some perhaps to pick up plenty of business without really pushing their art-form forward. However this stigma came about though, in recent years it’s been well and truly blown out of the water.

Now many of those who once criticised the wedding photography industry are themselves looking to take on some weddings, and for artistic rather than financial purposes. Great wedding photographers are now hugely respected in the industry, but what brought about this huge shift in the way wedding photography is perceived?

There have of course been many influences. Firstly the age of digital photography has brought about new opportunities and a new perception and awareness of photography and the way we take pictures by professionals and the public alike. Although in some ways everyone now seems to think they’re a photographer I think it has, at the same time, made most people realise when they see an outstanding image that there is a real difference between what they’re able to achieve and what a master of photography can produce.

Secondly of course there has undoubtedly been pioneering work by some of the great wedding photographers who have forced the photography industry to stop and take notice, and in the process started to change the whole perception of wedding photography and the artistry that can be involved.

wedding photography by Ed Peers

Photo by Ed Peers

The really big game-changer though has undoubtedly been the rise of the internet – a change that has allowed couples to look further and wider and forced photographers to look not just to be the best in their local town but to aim higher and try to be the best and most creative photographer anywhere in the world. Resting on your laurels is no longer an option because when you’re looking to book your wedding photographer you’re not limited, as you were in the past, to those few ads in the Yellow Pages, the world is your wedding photography oyster and you should explore it in full before making your decision.

Photographers now rarely serve solely their local town and often find that they are travelling the length and breadth of the country or even worldwide to photograph weddings for couples that just love their style and the way they see the world. You no longer need to physically visit every single photographer in your local area to see their portfolio and make a comparison, you can see and compare images at the click of a mouse or a swipe of your finger. You have the option to book (visa permitting) virtually any wedding photographer anywhere in the world, and some of the world’s finest are gaining recognition on a global scale by couples and their peers whilst the work is being constantly pushed forward to bigger and better things. It’s a very exciting time to be a wedding photographer and a great time to be booking one.

It is of course worth checking out your local photographers first, after all the internet has also allowed photographers to move further away from the major cities and still be in high demand so your local photographer might well be extraordinary. But remember it’s about finding the person who’s going to capture the images that you really love, no matter where your wedding is, at home or abroad. The internet may have been a universal game-changer, but it’s finding that photographer whose work speaks to you that should truly change the game for you.

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matt-avatar WhitenedIt’s been a little while since we last posted a “Top Tips” post but we thought it was about time we offered a little advice for one of the key figures at any wedding: The Mother of the Bride.

The Mother of the Bride role is a tricky one to get right. You need to be supportive but not overbearing, helpful but not interfering. It’s a fine line to tread and we hope these tips will help you on the way!


  • If you’re paying for all or part of the wedding make sure you agree a firm budget beforehand so that everyone knows where they stand and you can avoid awkward conversations later when there are elements that you’re not able to pay for.
  • Let your daughter and her soon-to-be husband decide on the type of wedding they want to have. Be there to offer advice when needed but remember that weddings are very different now to how they may have been in the past and that certain traditions and styles may no longer be as important as they once were.
  • Get ready with the bride. This is of course the bride’s choice but most brides like to have their family around them as they get ready for the day (in fact many brides choose to get ready at their parent’s family home) and it’s lovely for the mother of the bride to be involved in helping lace up the dress and supporting the bride as she prepares for the most important day of her life.
  • Be the co-host, not the host. Traditionally the mother and father of the bride have always been considered the hosts of the wedding but these days it is really the bride and groom themselves that are hosting their big day. That said the bride and groom have a lot to think about and do on the day and as mother of the bride it’s really helpful if you can take the initiative in greeting and talking to guests and making sure everyone is well looked after. This is an ideal opportunity to meet some of your daughter and son-in-law’s friends that you may not know as well as catch up with those that you may not have seen since their childhood. Just remember this is the bride and groom’s big day and whilst you play an incredibly important role, they should remain the centre of attention.
  • Under no circumstances should you say anything on the day of the wedding that may upset the bride. If you’ve suddenly realised that they didn’t invite that old family friend or if they didn’t take you up on one of your ideas IT’S TOO LATE AND NOW IS NOT THE TIME TO BRING IT UP!! The bride does not need to hear negativity on the happiest day of her life so unless it’s something really important that telling them about may actually save the day then it’s best to just keep it to yourself.
  • On a similar theme as mother of the bride you’re in the perfect position to help coordinate things on the day and keep any stress away from the bride. Make sure that anyone helping with the day knows that they can come to you with any issues or questions so that you, as someone who’s probably been filled in on all of the detailed plans for the wedding, can solve the problems rather than distract the bride and groom with them.
  • BUT Make sure you relax and have fun, don’t JUST worry about how everything’s going. Weddings should be fun, exciting occasions and it’s important that you too enjoy the day your daughter is married. Too often we’ve heard from the mother of the bride at the end of the day that she’s looking forward to seeing the photos or video because she hasn’t really been able to enjoy the day so far out of worry. If you’re the sort of person who by being in a position of responsibility is not going to be able to relax and really live the day then hire a wedding planner to take care of everything for you. The most important thing you can possibly do for your daughter on her wedding day is be there both in body and mind. Don’t let yourself be distracted and not truly experience your daughter’s wedding or you’ll always regret it.
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Weddings. They’re an expensive business without doubt, but just what is the average spend on different areas of the big day? Today we’re delighted to share this helpful infographic from Rated DJ’s breaking down all of the key costs to give you a better idea of what’s likely to be the key expenses for your wedding day in order that you can start to plan accordingly! Of course it’s important to remember that these figures are based on averages and different suppliers may charge more or less so make sure you look around and find your perfect suppliers and perhaps allow more budget for the areas most important to you, but we hope this helpful guide gives you a good point to get started!

Average Wedding Cost Budget Breakdown

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