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The Monday Musings – A Historic Weekend

matt-avatar WhitenedThis weekend was truly historic in the wedding world as same-sex couples became legally married for the first time. This long overdue change marks a huge leap forward in terms of equality in our great nation but more importantly marked the happiest day in the lives of so many loving couples who could finally call themselves husbands and wives together. 

It was amazing seeing all the news articles and photos start to appear as more and more couples tied the knot across Britain and we’ve collected a few links to articles below. One slightly worrying statistic though was that research apparently suggests that roughly one in five British adults would turn down an invitation to a same-sex wedding and that 26% oppose gay marriage. Of course it’s hugely positive that the vast majority are in favour, and with the church’s stance still (on the whole) against same sex unions that statistic is perhaps understandable, but in this day and age it’s a real shame that so many feel unable to share in the simple joy of two people declaring their love. Perhaps one day those views will change and gay marriage will be accepted by all, but for the time-being having the opposing minority simply stay away from same-sex unions is definitely a huge leap forward from not allowing them at all.

So congratulations to all those who were finally able to marry this weekend and to all those whose weddings are yet to come. You can read a few more of our thoughts on same-sex marriages here and here are a few articles from the rest of the UK to celebrate a monumental few days!

BBC News

BBC News

 

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The Guardian

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The Telegraph

 

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Story Frames – Lost in the Moment

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For the Bride and Groom it’s a slightly odd experience on the wedding day, with photographers and videographers watching your every move and all eyes on you from the guests all day it can sometimes be difficult to switch off. But it’s always magical when you see the Bride and Groom suddenly forget about everyone else and become completely lost in the moment. For Sian and John this was the moment, here on the dance floor, where they became the only two people in the world.

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The Bad Weather Wedding Inspiration Board

However much planning goes into your wedding day you can never truly account for the weather, and following yesterday’s Friday Fight-Out discussion on just how far you should plan for poor weather we thought we’d offer up a few ideas on what you can do to prepare for an unexpected turn in the skies. So here are our favourite poor weather finds from Pinterest this week!

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The Friday Fight-Out: All Weather Bride Vs Good Weather Bride

How ever hard you plan, however many checklists you make you never truly know what the weather will be like on your big day. Whilst most couples plan a contingency in case it’s impossible to have their planned outdoor events, relatively few brides come armed and ready to brave the elements on their big day. So should you be prepared to be an all-weather bride or is it best just to go with your ideal good-weather look and make sure you stay strictly indoors? Time to step into the debating chamber and get to the bottom of this one, all weather bride vs good weather bride!

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In the Red Corner, fighting for the fully prepared all-weather bride, well if you can end up having your wedding in a storm on a tropical island where can you really expect to hide from the weather? It’s Dom “The Tog Bride”.

In the Blue Corner, suggesting a go-with-the-flow and stay indoors if necessary approach, well he is the one who usually ends up lying on the wet grass trying to get the shot when the weather’s bad, it’s Matt “The Gormless Groom”.

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FIGHT!!! 

All weather bride vs good weather bride

Dom: You really can’t account for the weather and being prepared for it with umbrellas to hand, a dress that can accommodate wellies if you want some outdoor photos on muddy ground and something warm but stylish to wear over the dress if it’s chilly really means there’s no reason at all for the weather to impact on your day.

Matt: But you may have spent thousands on your dress already and want to show it off, not hide it beneath coats! As long as you’ve chosen a venue that has the capacity to move things inside it should be possible to avoid being exposed to the elements for more than a minute or two.

Dom: Whilst moving things inside is fine it’s often difficult to get group shots or lovely natural light portraits indoors and you may have chosen your venue specifically for it’s gardens or activities that can take place outdoors. Having a few extra weatherproof accessories for your dress (and warning guests to come prepared for the weather too) means you don’t have to miss out on all of that if it’s just a little blustery or if there’s a tiny drizzle in the air.

Matt: But your guests are unlikely to want to face the elements anyway even if the bride and groom are prepared so you may as well just look your best and accept that you’re not going to get outdoors.

Dom: The all-weather look can actually give your dress a whole new dimension and give you two very different (and equally cool) looks! I love seeing a bride in wellies or with a stylish fur or bridal coat, it’s such an amazing look and looks fab in the photos! With wellies you can even do cool stuff like go into streams and get photos you couldn’t possibly get otherwise!

Matt: But all these extra accessories like bridal coats and boots, even pretty white umbrellas all add significantly to the cost when you’re likely to have already spent a small fortune on the dress, hair and makeup for your look.

Dom: Confetti is rarely allowed to be thrown indoors and it’s rarely possible to throw the bouquet indoors either. You don’t want to be putting a standard overcoat or waterproof on for these important moments and having something designed to match your look means you don’t have to miss out!

Matt: If the weather’s really bad you’re not going to want to go out in it even if you have come prepared, and if the weather is not too bad you should be able to go out in it anyway, after all I’m sure the groom is more than willing to lend his bride his suit jacket to warm her up between photographs!

Dom: The weather really doesn’t matter on your day but guests will often comment to the bride “what a shame about the weather” which can feel like a real downer on the day. Showing the guests that you’re more than prepared and ready to embrace the day come rain or come shine means the weather is never brought up as an issue and helps the guests to embrace the weather too!

Matt: Not every dress will work with wellies or cloaks and furs. Choosing the dress should be an emotional choice – the one you fall in love with, not the one that’s simply practical for bad weather.

All weather bride vs Good weather bride Friday Fight-out

So those are our thoughts but where do you stand? Do you plan to be an all-weather-bride or will you be sticking strictly indoors if the weather isn’t quite as planned? Leave your comments to join the debate or simply place your vote in the poll below!

The Great All Weather Bride debate!
The Friday Fight-Out - All Weather Bride Vs Good Weather Bride
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Bride Vs Groom: The Experts

Here at Bride Vs Groom we aim to provide our readers with the best possible wedding advice we can offer based on our collective expertise working professionally in the wedding industry. As a photographer and videographer we see all kinds of different weddings, find loads of cool ideas and get the full experience of a wedding day (as well as observing those things that occasionally don’t quite go according to plan!) But whilst we hope we’ve been able to offer fairly wide ranging advice on all things weddings (and of course Small Dog’s specialist subject of how to kill Matt) there are a few areas where we felt we needed a little specialist expertise…

And that’s why we’re excited to announce that in the coming weeks you’ll see a few new faces on Bride Vs Groom as we welcome our new family of experts to the blog! We’ve already enlisted the help of a truly fabulous Hair and Makeup Artist to help you look your best for the big day, our Indian and multicultural wedding specialist to provide lots of awesome advice and tips for every bride and groom and our amazing floral expert to aid you in choosing the perfect bouquet to match your dress and how to make your venues look blooming marvellous! (Terrible pun sadly intended!) We can’t wait to introduce you to the newest members of the Bride Vs Groom family and pretty soon we’ll be opening up our new “ask the experts” section where between us we’ll try to answer all of your questions in each of our individual areas of expertise!

So watch out for updates as we introduce you to each of our experts and tell you a little about their background, coming soon to Bride Vs Groom!

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A Videographer’s Thoughts: The Audio Conundrum

Matt The Cinematographer1Perhaps the most difficult job for your videographer on your wedding day is how to capture top quality audio whilst making sure they don’t miss a moment of filming your day. Most wedding videographers are very small teams or even just one individual and are unlikely to have someone allocated solely to looking after sound as would be the case in film or TV work. Sound is in itself a very specialist area and one that can be affected by all kinds of factors, and whilst a good videographer will take every precaution to ensure the key audio from your day is recorded in the highest possible quality, it’s not always within their control. 

Whilst most videographers will be recording audio from camera mounted mics throughout the day it’s the ceremony and speeches where the sound becomes particularly important and where additional sound sources may be required. It’s also here where the videographer can quickly run into problems.

radio-micsMany videographers will make use of either radio mics or audio recorders to give them the best possible chance of capturing crystal clear audio. These will require lapel or tie clip microphones which are attached somewhere on the clothing, typically on both the groom and the officiant who will be looking after the ceremony. Now this can cause one or two problems, after all the groom naturally wants to look his best for his wedding day and having a microphone, however small, clipped to your tie or suit is hardly the greatest fashion accessory. It’s for this very reason that the Bride is rarely given her own microphone – the last thing any videographer wants is to spoil the look of the dress, so if we feel so strongly about protecting the appearance of the bride why do we not apply the same philosophy to the groom?

Well the answer is quite simply that at some point the videographer has to find the compromise between making sure you look your best and making sure that they capture the quality of sound your film demands. It’s relatively easy to place a mic fairly discretely onto the groom’s suit which, as you are generally facing each other for the vows and key audio moments, will generally also pick up the bride perfectly well. The officiant will also be standing nearby but not necessarily close enough to pick up the softly spoken couple and hence they will also often be mic’d separately so that all the key speech is picked up. A microphone can of course simply be placed reasonably close to the action and placed correctly will certainly pick up the words, (indeed this is often there anyway as backup even when the groom is mic’d) but the problem with this is that it will also pick up all of the ambient sound too much more loudly than a lapel. In some cases this is no bad thing, after all the guests are also an important part of your ceremony, but it does mean that (particularly in big echoey churches) the sound often becomes “muddy” and lacks the clarity and warmth that a lapel mic can provide. As any microphones need to be both out of the videographer’s shot and, more importantly, not getting in the way or looking ugly during your ceremony the chances are they are going to be placed further away or at a different angle than is optimal and so the quality is always going to suffer. Consequently, whilst there are no definite rules and your videographer may choose a different way to capture audio on the day, if you’re asked to wear a mic it’s generally best to go with the flow and allow them to place it as discretely as possible.

It’s not just the groom that has occasionally been known to turn down a mic though, officiants are notorious for refusing microphones, either because they are already wearing one for the PA system or because they “have a big loud voice which you’ll have no problem hearing”. Again the problem here is not missing the audio as such, or indeed the actual volume of the voice but the difference in quality having a mic closer to the officiant offers. Sometimes (although rarely in old church systems) the videographer can take a feed from the PA system radio mic but where possible it’s a good idea to speak to your videographer about whether they will need to mic the officiant so that this can be mentioned to them ahead of time so that they can fully understand why that microphone is required.

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Similarly if you are having a PA system and a handheld radio mic for your speeches some videographers will either ask the sound engineer to provide them with a feed for recording the handheld mic or will provide you with an additional microphone purely for the recording. If you are planning on having a PA system then make sure you mention it to the videographer so that they can plan accordingly and they can then let you know whether they will require a feed ahead of time to prevent any problems. It’s important to remember that using this system though the recording is only as good as the feed the sound technician provides and so the quality may not always be fully controllable by the videographer.

The final area of live sound that videographers are commonly asked to record though is the band. Bands are often very expensive to hire and form a key part of your day so it’s completely understandable that you might want to include some live audio from them in your film. However the art of recording bands is extremely tricky and in the majority of cases your videographer is unlikely to be able to capture high enough quality sound for any recordings to become a seamless part of your soundtrack. Whilst sometimes it’s possible to get a reasonable feed direct from the PA system or, more rarely, with recorders placed in front of the band, to get a truly high quality recording requires an additional mixer and microphones focussing purely on the recording rather than the live sound, and this is something that very few videographers are likely to be able to offer. Sometimes it’s best to just go with another piece of music or ask the band whether they have any pre-recorded tracks that can be used for the film, that way the audio will blend with the rest of the music and not take you out of the moment when watching it back.

So when it comes to audio trust in your videographer. Trust that they will only use sound that is appropriate to the film, trust that they have no intention of listening to private conversations and trust that they have the audio expertise to know what they need to do to capture the best sound quality they can on your day. They may use the techniques above or they may have their own variations that they find effective, but only they will know what they need to do to capture the type of audio they’re looking for.

It’s often said that sound and music is 50% of what makes a great wedding film, let’s help your videographer to make your film 50% better.

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