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Well we hope you crazy cats have had an amazing weekend and before you have to return to the drudgery of Monday morning we thought we’d share this little frame to keep you in that weekend spirit! This frame was captured during the final song of the night at Alex and Paul’s amazing Hospitium wedding, when the DJ was flying and the atmosphere was absolutely electric. Magic.
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When it comes to the Bride and Groom getting from A to B on the wedding day one thing is clear: you want to do it in style! Two of the most popular choices to make your grand entrance are a classic car or horse drawn carriage and so today we thought we’d see if we could get to the bottom of which is the best! Time to step into the ring for this week’s Friday Fight-Out!


In the Red Corner, arguing the case for the horse drawn carriage, well let’s face it she’s all for any way of including animals in the big day… or any day come to think of it, it’s Dom “The Tog Bride”

In the Blue Corner, coming up with pretty much any reason he can as to why someone should let him drive an Aston Martin, it’s Matt “The Gormless Groom”

Wedding Car Vs Horse & Carriage


Dom: The horse-drawn carriage is so dramatic – classic cars may be amazing pieces of engineering but how often do you have the chance to be pulled along in such romantic fashion by some beautiful horses?!

Matt: The horse drawn carriage is great for a very traditional wedding but often doesn’t work so well for something more contemporary. In choosing a car you can choose from a vast array of models to find something that perfectly matches the style of your wedding day.

Dom: Weddings are full of tradition and the horse-drawn carriage is a beautiful example. It’s the way you imagine princesses travelling and that’s what a bride should feel like on her wedding day.

Matt: Horse drawn carriages are an incredibly slow way to travel, particularly if it needs to make more than one trip to take the bridesmaids as well. It’s always difficult to judge how long exactly the journey will take and it can cause big delays to the ceremony starting.

Dom: Classic cars are notorious for breaking down which can cause enormous problems for your schedule and leave you hanging around waiting on your big day. With a horse and carriage you can be sure of no break-down’s, just a beautiful animal to look after you on the day!

Matt: Lots of people are afraid of horses and some of your guests may be amongst them. The last thing you want is to be making your guests back away as you try to make an elegant entrance.

Dom: Lots of people now like to have eco-friendly weddings and horses are definitely a beautifully eco friendly way to travel!

Matt: Hiring a classic chauffeur driven car to transport you is likely to be cheaper than hiring a horse and carriage as the horse and carriage have to be transported to the location, there’s more time prepping the horses and the carriage and the drivers need to be very specialised.

Dom: Seeing a bride in an open-topped carriage is an amazing spectacle to behold. In a car, even if it is open-topped, you can rarely see the full dress or fully experience the majesty of the occasion.

Matt: Horses can be…how shall I put this… MESSY!! There’s nothing worse than the bride elegantly stepping out of her carriage to be greeted by horses doing their business behind her!

So those are our arguments but where do you stand? Leave a comment to join the debate or simply place your vote in our poll below.

Wedding Car Vs Horse & Carriage
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It’s “Throwback Thursday” once again and so today we thought we’d bring back another post buried deep in the archives full of helpful tips to help you on your wedding-planning way! This week we’re revisiting the issue of transport for both yourselves and your guests to help advise you on all the little things you might need to think about in getting from A to B. We’ll be having a little debate on this issue in this week’s Friday Fight-Out so we hope this brings up a few points for you all to join in the debate!

For those like me who are used to driving fast, exciting, head-turning cars like Mondeo’s (ahem) on a daily basis you can appreciate the impact of travelling in eye-catching style! If there’s one day though where you really want to make the maximum impact on arrival it’s your wedding day, so what are your transportation options?

Well of course there’s the classic beautiful vintage cars from the 20’s and 30’s that only come out for such special occasions along with those stunning Rolls Royces and Grand Bentley’s that certainly ensure you arrive in style, but at a time where more and more Brides and Grooms are looking to make their wedding really different and stand out from the pack, how can you make your mark with your choice of transport?

Wedding Transport - VW Campervan

Really it’s all about carrying through the whole style of your wedding in your choice of transport. If you’re looking for something cool and funky some companies have started offering pimped out wedding VW Campervans – polished and shiny to be fit for the occasion! On the other hand if you’re looking at an English vintage theme how about the Groom arriving on an old bike or the two of you leaving in tandem on a bicycle made for two? You could even choose an old classic motorbike and sidecar if cycling in your wedding dress doesn’t sound like your cup of tea!

wedding transport - horse and carriage

For the animal lovers amongst you (or perhaps if you’re getting married in a grand old house straight out of Pride and Prejudice or something) then the elegant horse drawn carriage is an incredibly grandiose way to travel, or if you’d like a more natural feel then arriving directly on horseback is sure to make a statement!

Of course if you’re looking more for something fun that you don’t generally see on the UK streets you could look into wedding Tuk Tuk’s – perfect for short distance travel, for example moving across an estate between the ceremony and reception locations. Or, if money’s no object, you could really splash out and avoid the roads altogether and stun your guests by arriving by helicopter…

wedding transport - Tuk Tuk

Of course in terms of transport you’re not the only ones who need to get around on the day. Thinking about how your guests are going to get around is very important, particularly when there is any distance between the venues for the ceremony and reception, if there’s little parking or that’s particularly remote. To help the guests get where they need to be classic vintage double decker buses are always a hit with the guests, particularly open top versions for a warm summers day. If the distance isn’t too long then a group walk, including the bride and groom, from the ceremony to reception can prove a really lovely and relaxed part of the day. If you have the right venue by the water though and really want to impress your guests how about chartering a boat to whisk them along to their next location or (if you’re lucky enough to have the option) booking a couple of carriages aboard an old steam train!

wedding tranportation - boat

There are so many interesting travel options out there and it’s definitely something to keep in mind when choosing your venue if you want to maximise your options. Travelling may be a relatively minor part of the day in the grand scheme of things, but it can also be one of the most fun and an opportunity to do something you’ve always wanted, like the Bride that surprises her Back To the Future loving groom by having him picked up in a Delorean…

Wedding Transport - Delorian

So whichever type of transportation you choose for your wedding day, make sure you travel in style!

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When it comes to wedding accessories there are all kinds of fun traditions and little gems of folklore relating to  what you should wear on your big day, but do you know what they’re all about and is there a way of putting a bit more of a modern twist on them? Well today the lovely Kayleigh Herbertson would like to fill you in on some traditional and contemporary interpretations! Over to Kayleigh…

Wedding Accessories: Traditional and Contemporary Meanings

When we close our eyes and picture our wedding even the most modern of us is probably seeing something surprisingly traditional . Maybe we’re in a grand, white gown, perhaps there’s a church and a band playing the conventional wedding theme. Perhaps we have a beautiful long veil that is being held up by an adorable flower girl. Hair styled up and white shoes, we could have stepped out of any movie that involves a wedding. The traditions that surround weddings are in our subconscious and it’s only when we consider their importance (and history) that we’re likely to decide if they’re truly for us.

The Dress – Traditions and New Conventions

Not wearing a white wedding dress is considered unconventional but we’re all familiar with the meaning of a white gown. The rise of couples cohabiting before they tie the knot means that most brides are walking down the aisle happily acknowledging to her family and friends that she’s not “virginal”. The tradition for wearing white still endures and it’s still a beautiful colour to wear but there are a variety of dresses in alternative colours to choose from. There’s also this hilarious Victorian rhyme regarding coloured dresses:

Married in White Very traditional, the Victorians. Of course, the colour of the dress is entirely down to style choice and is unlikely to have any bearing in the marriage itself. 

The “tradition” of getting a dress specifically for a wedding is also something of a modern marketing ploy. An entire business has grown from creating the ideal “wedding dresses”, expensive gowns designed for one wear. Historically, women would get wedding dresses that could be adapted and re-worn, only the very richest could afford a dress for one occasion.  If you’re looking to save some money on your wedding then simply getting a dress (in any colour, including white) without telling anyone you’re a bride is likely to save you a great deal of money. One my favourite anecdotes relating to the wedding of my parents is my mother simply buying a white Laura Ashley dress and ironing it on the day. It’s amazing how the price for two identical dresses can increase when one is given the label “wedding dress”.

image01Veils and Face Coverings

Another long standing tradition, veils were used during weddings to protect the modesty of the bride. The unveiling during the ceremony symbolised her entrance to the world as a woman, revealed by her soon-to-be husband. The tradition of the unveiling is still present in some weddings, particularly religious weddings, but it has left mainstream media, instead the veils are presented as more of an extravagant hair accessory.

It’s important to remember that veils most frequently come in white and can even look quite strange in other colours. This means that it sits far more comfortably with a white wedding gown. Some designers also advise that a contemporary wedding gown isn’t well suited to a long veil, particularly ones that need to be carried. Alternatives include smaller and much shorter veils, you can even get vintage ones that feature netting. If you have your heart set on a full length veil then this is one traditional accessory that demands you go whole hog with a traditional wedding outfit!

If you wanted to accessorise with a contemporary face covering then I’d recommend checking out masquerade masks. Distinctive and decorative, they’re also incredible for a truly unique wedding. Grin Grimace and Squeak can even create a custom mask for your wedding, making it as individual as you are.


Pearls and Gemstone Jewellery 

image00There is a tradition for the father of the groom to offer his future daughter-in-law a set of pearl jewellery to wear on her wedding day. This could be a necklace or earrings (or both) and they represent the purity of her marriage. This is a much less well-known tradition but can be a meaningful gift from family to family. Whether or not you receive them as a gift, pearls are another element of a traditional outfit but for a more contemporary spin you can get yourself some colourful gemstone jewellery. Choosing white pearls and clear diamonds as engagement and wedding jewellery is a relatively new phenomenon and gemstones are making something of a comeback. They allow you to pick jewellery that has greater meaning to you, whether it be as simple as a birthstone, a stone which matches the colour of your outfit or perhaps a colour to offer some contrast. A great example could be the colour purple, which is a warm and versatile tone that can be found in amethyst jewellery. This can be added to a white outfit to really create contrast or implemented with autumnal colours. Turquoise is also a popular alternative jewellery item for weddings. If you want to wear a traditional gown but give your accessories a modern twist then giving yourself a splash of colour via your jewellery is an classy way to stand out.

 Alternatively, if you like the idea of this tradition but are vegan/vegetarian then moonstone jewellery is an excellent alternative that doesn’t involve animals.


image02Sixpence in Her Shoe and Beach Sandals 

The most famous wedding day tradition comes from a popular rhyme. What do you need for a wedding? “Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue”, simple right? What you might not know is that the poem ends with “and a silver sixpence in her shoe”. The silver sixpence was supposed to grant luck to the couple and was a particularly popular tradition in the early 20th century. If you wanted to continue this tradition then you can even get a silver sixpence straight from the British Mint to commemorate the occasion. Alternatively, it’s very easy to find a sixpence online or in old coin collections.  You might even be surprised to find that this tradition is alive and well in your family, with many mothers and grandmothers having a sixpence they’ve put aside for future weddings. Make sure you check first!

Of course, this tradition is merely for the sake of tradition. No one can see that you’re wearing a sixpence in your shoe and I honestly wonder if it’s less comfortable to walk in bridal shoes when one of them has a coin inside.

One of the most modern wedding day traditions is that of beach weddings. Whether you’re going abroad or enjoying the beautiful beaches the UK has to offer, most heels won’t do you any favours on sand. This has led to the development of beach wedding sandals. Understated sandals that are also beautifully detailed with beads and intricate material strands to keep them in place. Unlikely to be worn again, this is nonetheless a lovely alternative to wedding day heels and can also be used for garden weddings and the like.


Traditional, Modern, Make Your Own!

It’s important to remember that we are not slaves to tradition, in fact traditions depend on us to carry them on. If a wedding convention has no meaning to you then you don’t have to make use of us. And if you’re planning the most contemporary wedding ever that doesn’t mean that you can’t use traditions that have meaning to you. Even the most modern of couples may choose to speak the vows we’re all familiar with or opt for a veil that falls over the face.

From the elements above – traditions and modern creations – you can mix and match to create a wedding ensemble that really represents you and your wedding day.

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We live in a world where social media is everywhere, but should it have a place at your wedding? With many couples choosing to embrace the social media age and put it to good use with wedding hashtags and photo-sharing on the day itself whilst others ask their guests to go completely “unplugged” these days it’s something you definitely need to consider. So, to help you decide we’d like to share a little infographic from the folks at all about using social media at your wedding…


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