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Today’s story frame features one of our favourite moments from any church wedding: the moment the Bride and Groom walk back down the aisle and emerge into the sunlight as Mr and Mrs. It’s a moment of so many emotions: the excitement of finally being married, the intimacy of the couple’s first brief moment away from the guests and that mix of relief and happiness that everything has gone just the way you planned. For this happy couple the joy was just written all over their faces…
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Happy Valentines Day everybody! We hope you’re having a 14th of February filled with romance wherever you are in the world right now, and to celebrate we’d like to share this fab infographic created by the good folks at Giftcloud. There are all kinds of cool and quirky valentines traditions that take place around the world at this time of year and here are just a few of the most fascinating ones…

Valentines Traditions Around the World

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Well folks, tomorrow is Valentines day, one of the most romantic days in the calendar and consequently (according to certain surveys) one of the most popular for marriage proposals. So, to aid those considering a valentines proposal, we thought we’d revisit the topic of whether the Valentines proposal was a good idea or not and put it once again to the debate…

Valentines Proposal Vs Any Other Date

DISCLAIMER: If you’re definitely planning on proposing tomorrow then congratulations, you’re absolutely doing the right thing… there’s really no need to read on here!


In the Red Corner, disagreeing with the stats and fighting against the valentines proposal, well she did have to wait that long for a proposal from her ‘gormless groom’ that limiting the options to just one day would have made it even worse… it’s Dom “The Tog Bride”

In the Blue Corner, fighting for the valentines day proposal although he actually proposed on Christmas eve which is apparently the date most men think is ideal… man he’s cliché! it’s Matt “The Gormless Groom”



Dom: Valentines day proposals are considered by some to be little bit cheesy and you wouldn’t want the person you’re proposing to to be thinking that way and be disappointed with your proposal as a result…

Matt: But valentines day is supposed to be a day set aside to celebrate love and romance… surely that’s the best possible day to make such a romantic commitment!

Dom: But your proposal is a romantic enough day to celebrate in itself! Whilst I appreciate you and fellow members of your gender may be unaware of this it is actually possible to have more than one day of romance per year!

Matt: I’m almost certain there was a subtle dig in there somewhere… anyway it may be possible to have more than one special date but it’s a lot easier to remember them if they’re all combined into one!

Dom: You’d think wouldn’t you. But isn’t it more special to remember the day you proposed as a day that was truly yours rather than one that is already special to half the world?

Matt: Your date will always be your date and be special to the two of you, but choosing a date that may already have great significance to the two of you like valentines day can help to make it extra special – a day already filled with memories throughout your relationship.

Dom: Valentines Day isn’t really a day of romance though, it’s a made-up holiday that happened to catch on!

Matt: Aren’t all holidays made up to some extent though? Whether you believe it was the date of the birth of Christ or the date of the winter solstice or just a day that was chosen through convenience, we all decided to celebrate christmas in the way we do so isn’t it just as valid to choose a day to celebrate something that intrinsically affects everyone to some extent – love?

Dom: Your partner is more likely to be expecting a proposal on valentines day, taking away some of that amazing element of surprise that can make a proposal even more special.

Matt: But if your partner’s expecting a valentines proposal do you really want to let them down?

So those are our thoughts but where do you stand? Leave a comment to join the debate or simply place your votes in our weekly poll below!

Valentines Day Proposal Vs Any Other Day
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Matt The Cinematographer1

As Matt is currently locked deep in video editing at the moment, today we thought we’d revisit a little post on the subject of what goes into editing together a good film. Why do sometimes certain shots from your wedding day end up “littering the cutting room floor” so to speak? Why does it take so long to put together a good wedding film, here are our resident wedding filmmaker’s thoughts on the subject…

In any filming enterprise probably the most challenging place to be is sitting in the editing suite deciding which of the thousands of clips in front of you are the ones that present the story in the best possible way. It can often be a savage place where tough calls have to made and agonising choices are a regular feature, but it’s also the place where, when the right choices are made, the magic really does happen.

With any good moving picture it’s the story that drives the action and bold decisions have so often been made in the name of the story. Hollywood directors have even gone so far as to cut out entire actors from a film – Kevin Costner was famously completely cut out from The Big Chill  to the point where having completed filming his only part in the finished film was that of a dead body. Similarly the character of Marty McFly in Back to the Future was originally played by Eric Stoltz before the director realised after an initial cut of the first 5 weeks of filming that the actor’s performance just wasn’t getting the laughs they felt were needed and made the decision to recast Michael J Fox and completely re-shoot. As I say, the editing room is a savage place and the “cutting room floor” so to speak, is littered with great footage that for some reason or another just didn’t quite fit.

When it comes to editing wedding films those hard decisions can often be even more heartbreaking. Ok so those decisions aren’t going to cost millions as they so often do in Hollywood, but every shot you cut is a memory that you’re not sharing with the couple, a moment that they may never even have witnessed themselves that they will not now have the chance to see. Depending on the individual videographer and the type of film they present you might be attempting to compress around 10 hours of footage, often from multiple cameras, into perhaps just 10 minutes that make up the final cut.

The film is made in the editing room. The shooting of the film is about shopping, almost. It’s like going to get all the ingredients together, and you’ve got to make sure before you leave the store that you got all the ingredients. And then you take those ingredients and you can make a good cake – or not.
– Philip Seymour Hoffman

Some of that, of course, will probably be footage that didn’t quite work or quite long clips from which you only need to extract a few seconds. Some of that though will be fantastic clips that the editor is desperate to use but that just don’t fit in with the rest of the piece. Some of the best shots I’ve ever filmed have been cut from our final videos either by my colleague or by my own hand and when it happens it’s quite heartbreaking, but at the end of the day I stand by the fact that the finished films have always been better for making that cut than by compromising the integrity of the film to accommodate something that just doesn’t fit.

It may seem strange that great clips may be omitted from a wedding video but the thing is that when it comes to film-making, whether that be Hollywood movies, TV series, Indie films or indeed wedding videos, a clip is only truly a great shot if it works in the context of the piece. It has to match in with the clips before and after it, it has to move the story forward, it has to make sense within the unfolding story around it and match the pace and tone of the film you’re trying to piece together. You might, for example have a stunning individual video portrait taken between the ceremony and reception but find that when placed in the timeline of the day it doesn’t seem to make sense as there are no similar shots to help it blend in with the rest of the piece. You may have a certain piece of music that you are editing the video to match and find that the timing just doesn’t quite work with the music and that one shot will therefore have to be cut… there are all kinds of reasons that affect which shots make the final cut and, savage though sometimes the editor has to be, none of them are taken lightly.

The Cutting Room FloorWedding videographers will of course pretty much always try to include all the key moments and make sure that the film evokes all the right emotions and stirs all the right memories from the day. But the reason it’s so important to make sure you find a videographer whose films your really connect with is that when you ask them to film your day you are asking them to tell the story of your day the way they see it, to present your day through their eyes and their creative vision. Some videographers provide longer films than others, some offer separate full coverage of your speeches and ceremony, some will happily hand over the unedited footage whilst others prefer only to present the film they way they intended it to end up rather than all of the extra footage that was cut. They are effectively the director and hiring the right director for the right job is essential – each has their own style and sees the world differently – if you’d asked Hitchcock to direct E.T you would probably have ended up with a very different type of film than the one Spielberg created. It might have been equally good but it’s a completely different film nonetheless. They might see the story in a completely different way and edit the same footage in a very different style and that’s part and parcel of the craft of film-making – it’s as much about the parts of the story that are not included as the ones that are.

At the end of the day those editing decisions are what gives a film its style and the reason you go to one film-maker over another. It’s important to accept that some parts of your story will inevitably end up on the cutting room floor, but that it’s always for the greater good. Cut correctly your wedding film will show you enough to stir the memories to fill in the blanks for you, and the piece itself will be all the more powerful for it. If there’s something that’s really important to you that’s missing from your film then by all means see whether it can be included, but just remember, more often than not there’s a very good reason why that clip was left on the cutting room floor.

The essence of cinema is editing. It’s the combination of what can be extraordinary images of people during emotional moments, or images in a general sense, put together in a kind of alchemy.
– Francis Ford Coppola 
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Well chaps, the much feared valentines day is almost upon us, but it’s not too late! To help you survive without the backlash of turning up with last minute petrol station flowers, Cocorose London have produced a great infographic full of last minute valentines gift ideas! So lads, you’ve been given due notice, time to get on the case and impress your Mrs ready for the 14th!

valentine day gift ideas

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matt-avatar WhitenedToday I did one of those things I just hate to do: go for a haircut. It’s not that I’m particularly precious about my hair (in fact if I was in the last bit bothered about it I would probably actually go much more often), it’s more that whilst I’m generally relieved when I finally leave the room with considerably less hair than I managed to grow in the proceeding month (ok two months… ok three months), somehow the thought of going there just fills me with dread.

Now I realise I’m really in no position to talk here. As a man who has no interest in having his hair dyed or indeed having anything particularly special or interesting done to it other than it miraculously get shorter my hair appointments probably last in reality no more than 20 minutes or so. My wife on the other hand (along with pretty much every other girl I know) seemingly has to set aside a week and a half for a haircut, assuming that is that it’s nothing more complicated than a trim in which case you may need a good 6 months. So yes, I acknowledge that really going to the hairdresser’s is comparatively no effort at all on my part and yes I understand I’m probably also paying about a tenth of the price, but still I admit to being happier to look at myself in the mirror knowing my hair is completely out of control in a way that Harry Potter could scarcely dream of rather than take a short walk and experience a short period of sitting relatively still whilst someone else works hard to make my hair more, well, short.

I think my feelings about having my hair cut stem largely from childhood, perhaps from my toddler years where my mum was so happy to receive such lovely compliments about my lovely long golden locks that she was prepared to ignore the fact that said compliments were largely preceded by “what a pretty girl she is”. Once finally old enough to be able to persuade mum that I should actually have a boy hair cut we for many years went to the same hairdresser who would, without fail, ask me what style I wanted then systematically ignore everything I’d said and cut it the same way every time.

Even in recent years, having found a hairdresser that was at least willing to fein interest in what sort of style I would like I still found myself fearing every visit, knowing that inane chatter was almost inevitable despite my making it perfectly clear that I did not plan on going anywhere nice on my holidays but thanks for rubbing it in and confirming that it was indeed slightly chilly outside as it had been for the last dozen or so times I had been there. Worse still though was the fact that as this particular barber was one clearly frequented by lads that definitely did care enough about their hair to go more than once every four (ok six) months and that, during the period between entering with my hair gelled so securely that it somehow looked ok and leaving with my hair short enough to actually control without the assistance of glue, there would be a brief period where I would, once again look like a girl with stupidly long hair in front of people that would most certainly be judging me every which way. After all it’s not really ideal to have to cut your own hair before going to the hairdresser just to look less of a d***.

But today was a somewhat miraculous experience. Having visited a relatively new hairdresser for only a second time I found myself being quickly seated and able to explain what I wanted without having to pretend to know what grade I wanted the back and sides (erm… A*?) or indeed make inane chat about nothing. In fact so scarce was the unnecessary chat during this rather efficient haircut that I actually found myself asking whether she was going anywhere nice on her holidays. Better yet at the end of the haircut I didn’t even have to just accept the results with a cheery “yeah that’s great” whilst secretly loathing it as for once I seemed to have on my head some sort of actual hair “style” in roughly the way I wanted it… there’s a first for everything.

So perhaps I have stumbled upon the secret to good hair: deadly silence in the salon and a psychic link to let it be known that I don’t have a PHD in hairdressing and have no understanding of anything said hairdresser may be about to say to me. Or perhaps I should stop grumbling and go for a short world cruise whilst I wait for Dom’s return from the hairdressers. Ah, six weeks peace and quiet.

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