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Your wedding day: the happiest day of your life, a day with so much build-up and anticipation but one that’s over in the blink of an eye. No-one wants their wedding day to end and it begs the question – should you allow it to end at midnight or try to keep it going long into the night?

Time to put it to the debate!


In the Red Corner, arguing for keeping the party going into the wee small hours and as a photographer she’s usually right there with the guests watching them dance the night away, it’s Dom “The Tog Bride”

In the Blue Corner, arguing for the set finish time like the old 30 year old he is (though he doesn’t look a day over 70 when he dances) it’s Matt “The Gormless Groom”


All Night Party Vs Set Finish Time

Dom: Your wedding really does go so quickly and when the party’s in full swing you never want it to end. If you choose a venue where you have full use all night or if you arrange somewhere else to head to at the end of the night you really can make it a night to remember for everyone!

Matt: Most venues do have a set cut-off time and won’t allow you to stay any later as they have noise restrictions in place or need to set up the room for other events. If having no time restriction is really important to you you may be severely limited in which venues can offer this.

Dom: Opens your eyes to the amazing and unique wedding venues out there, don’t be constricted to what the traditional venues have!

Matt: Venues will need to have staff present while you and your guests are there and hiring extra staff to be there all night can be really expensive, not to mention the additional room hire costs.

Dom: Don’t have any staff at all! Some of my favourite weddings were organised solely by the couple and their friends, it can be as wild as you want and very special! Some of the most fun of the entire day can sometimes come in the small hours of the night.

Matt: Whilst you may not want your night to end, weddings are very long days and by around midnight most of your guests will probably be thinking about heading to bed, particularly older guests or those with young children. If there’s only a few of you left is it really worth trying to keep the party going?

Dom: YES always! Understandable some will leave for bed but the party will only be getting started! When do you get the chance to have all your friends in one place? Time to PARTY!

Matt: If you want your wedding to last that little bit longer there are other ways of doing it, for example choosing a venue where there is plenty of on-site accommodation so your guests can stay at the venue and you can have a meal the night before the wedding and a breakfast/lunch the day after, or even make a week of it by choosing a destination wedding where everyone is staying close to each other.

Dom: You can do all these things but still extend the all night party, after all when you have danced and raved all night you will definitely all need a hearty breakfast.

Matt: Cooked Breakfast? Now you are talking my language…

So those are our arguments but where do you stand? Leave a comment to join the debate or simply place your vote below!

All Night Party Vs Set Finish Time
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It’s “Throwback Thursday” once again and today we’d like to take you back to a little post all about the importance of finding the right videographer for you and the work that goes into making that perfect wedding film for you…

Matt The Cinematographer1Ever watched all the way through the credits at the end of a film? The number of people involved in making a Hollywood production is quite staggering. From producers to directors and assistant directors to sound editors to cameramen to lighting technicians to the location scouts to the cinematographers and colourists to the guys that carry the equipment, it takes an enormous crew behind the scenes to put together a top quality production. 

Now imagine you turn up on day one of filming, the action has already started without the director’s say-so, you have a film crew of maybe one or two people and the script hasn’t even been written yet…

Wedding videographers often describe their style as ‘cinematic’ and it’s Hollywood standards that most strive towards in their work, but the lack of a full-blown film crew isn’t the only problem to overcome in attaining a cinematic film. The fact is that when it comes to weddings there’s no rehearsal and no-one to yell “CUT” and take that last scene from the top. You can’t pause for a lighting adjustment or try out a different angle, you get one chance and if you miss it the producer’s (who also happen to be your stars, the eventual audience and also your film critics) are unlikely to be forgiving.

silhouette-film-crew-57Now don’t get me wrong, we’re not saying that capturing a wedding film is as complex and demanding as a full-blown hollywood production, but there are an awful lot of elements that go into making a good film which all have to come together in one overall vision of the day. Generally the team behind a wedding video is rarely bigger than four and may be as small as just one, yet this small group of professionals will be aiming to capture all the best angles, capture top quality live sound, often operate additional equipment such as steadicams, cranes and timelapse cameras and not miss a moment of what is the most important day of two people’s lives. Afterwards they will have to filter through hours of footage and single-handedly create a comprehensive story of the day, creating a perfectly fitting soundtrack, incorporating live recordings and colour balancing the finished cut ready for the producers who paid for the film (aka the client) to view it.

The producers, of course will always have certain aims for any film and certain scenes that are particularly important to them which the director will always do their best to accommodate, but when your director is also the cinematographer, primary cameraman, editor and sound designer it’s even more important to have complete faith in their vision. Just as in Hollywood each director has their own individual style – they will prefer a certain style of framing the shot, they will have a particular way of telling a story. Whilst every film is different and will clearly demand a slightly different approach, that trademark overarching vision of the director will still be a major influence on the way the film is put together and so it’s important to make sure you have enlisted the right director before filming begins and trust them to complete the film the way they envision it.

The odd note from the producers is rarely a problem for the creative film-maker but the backlots of Hollywood are littered with failed studio interventions. The 1982 classic Blade Runner is a classic example – a film which received mix response upon its initial release by the studio but went on to become an absolute cult classic when the director’s cut finally hit DVD’s in Ridley Scott’s original glorious vision. It may be the producer that facilitate the making of the film but it should always be the director who actually makes the movie.

So think long and hard before choosing your wedding videographer, make sure you fully understand their style and be absolutely positive that you’re not looking to change it once filming has started. Film-makers can capture any different types of content you’d like but their style will always shine through. All you need to do is put away that producer’s hat and re-cast yourselves as the stars of the film. Then and only then are you likely to have a classic on your hands.

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The-ExpertsHi there!

This is my third and final part of what happens when you hire a make up artist and I hope you have found the posts helpful.

A few final things to point out in the run up to the wedding.

Sleeping Beauty

I know this is a hard thing to do, but try and sleep as much as you can, it’s not called beauty sleep for nothing!   You will be excited and maybe a little bit anxious but everything WILL be perfect – so chill out as much as you can the night before, you will feel so much better on the wedding morning.

Water Baby

Water will hydrate the skin and if you can increase your intake in the run up to the big day, it will enhance your make up and you will notice a difference, I promise!


We all love a schedule

Before the wedding, your artist should provide you with a timeline of the morning, so everyone knows their arrival time and when they will be required in the hot seat.  This allows everyone time to get showered, eat breakfast (so important) and when they are able to get dressed.  I personally like to provide the bride with at least an hour of time, before she is due to leave for the ceremony to get dressed, use the bathroom, put on her jewellery and perfume, it’s surprising at how much time this can take, also this should give you time with your photographer before you leave, should you be having any pictures taken, plus there may even be time to have a glass of fizz!

Expect the unexpected

I often find myself on the wedding day helping the bride pop her veil in, there are even times when I assist the bride getting into her gown or pinning mum’s button hole…this is all part of my service.  Unless I am told otherwise, I always stay until you are ready to leave, thus ensuring I’m around if you need any last minute touch ups.  Maybe double check with your artist what they plan to do, as this is not always the case they will be around until you leave.

And finally….

enjoy every part of the wedding day activities and the run up to the big day.

Take care and see you soon

Victoria x
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Today we’re thrilled to share a lovely Parklands Quendon Hall wedding film from the fantastic Gione da Silva who clearly had an amazing time capturing Hayley and Dan’s big day! There were some amazing surprises throughout the day (the transportation for one!) and Hayley and Dan look just perfect together. But enough from us, we’ll hand over to Gione to tell us exactly how Hayley and Dan’s big day went down…

This was one of the most fun weddings I had this year! Since meeting Hayley and Dan for the consultation at their house we had an immediate connection. We have a lot in common in terms of personalities and share the love for life and fun. It was easy to see we would capture great footage, as they were both very keen on having me as their wedding filmmaker.

Hayley is an IT teacher and Dan is a professional angler. Dan is so into this that he actually writes articles for some magazines and online blogs about fishing, etc… We tried to do a little piece about his passion for fishing but in the end we did not have enough time. Thank God Hayley covered that in her speech!

They got married on May the 29th at Parklands Quendon Hall, Essex. That is a truly inspirational venue with lots of opportunities for beautiful imagery. It’s actually overwhelming! We were lucky to work with great photographer Neal Laver who also has a great eye for composition, so on the day, it was pretty much straight forward for both of us as we shared ideas and both came up with stunning material.

Hayley’s main goal was to get married outside. This was made clear during the consultation and I had it all planned for nice candids of the couple around the golden hour, etc… Guess what? On the day of their wedding, we woke up to rain! There it went the possibility of an outside wedding. As I got to Parklands it was still grey and rainy and at that stage no hopes for an outside wedding. The interesting thing was that even after all that planning and things not going according to plan, Hayley was so up beat and cheerful. It was really cool to see a bride actually enjoying her day and going with the flow. That alone puts anyone at easy and eager to do their best to over deliver on any promise!

During preps Hayley kept looking at the window and they even had a little bet amongst the bridesmaids whether the Sun would show up for a nice outside wedding. About 40 minutes before the ceremony time, out of ‘nowhere’, the Sun showed up! It was great seeing their happiness! The guys from Parklands had to work really hard to get things ready in time, what a great bunch! This is the reason why I show the place being prepared for a wedding outside, it meant a lot for the couple!

They decided to have personal vows, which added a lot to their film and to their wedding too. It was so much like them!

Another emotional moment for Hayley was the opportunity to have her father walking her down the aisle. He has mobility issues and it was a real effort for him to be able to be there. He also delivered a very fun and heartfelt speech.

Although I normally stay in touch with most of my couples, I actually built a friendship with Hayley and Dan and we always talk. I am about to finish their full feature film and can’t wait to see their reaction!

Thanks to Gione for sharing this lovely film with us today, you can find out more about Gione and his work on the links below!
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matt-avatar WhitenedChristmas, as we’ve previously established, is undoubtedly my favourite time of year. I love practically everything about it from the carols to the decorations to the festive good will. There’s one thing about it though that I, like most people really don’t enjoy: Christmas shopping.

Now it’s not that I consider myself to be a grinch when it comes to giving; I genuinely get a huge amount of satisfaction from making someone else smile with a well-considered gift, it’s just the well-considering part that tends to drive me a little bit crazy. When people query the existence of Santa Clause they so often ask the wrong questions. The question of how on earth Santa can visit every single child’s house in the world in one night pails into insignificance compared to the question of just how the heck he comes up with gifts for those who haven’t got any idea what they’d like, have no hobbies and interests that provide any inspiration whatsoever and most certainly haven’t sat on your knee and provided you with a list.

Having officially now looked at EVERY PRODUCT IN THE WORLD during this year’s Christmas shopping I can in fact exclusively reveal my Christmas purchases thus far (shhh, don’t tell my family). Stand by to be amazed, I have officially bought…drumroll please…

One Chocolate Orange.

And it’s for someone who’s on a diet.

And doesn’t like Chocolate.

Or Oranges.

I fear my aspirations of one day becoming Santa Claus may have hit an early stumbling block.

Chocolate Orange

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We love working with Brides and Grooms that just want to have fun and they don’t come much more relaxed and fun-loving than Laura and Tom! Laura and Tom weren’t exactly looking for traditional group photos and this hilarious moment came just as we were taking the awesome couple out for one or two portraits and, whilst laying on the ground, the bridesmaids decided to all pile on!
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