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It’s one for the ladies today as we step into the ring in a fight to the death, the weapon of choice? Big floppy hats! Yes this week we’re calling the necessity of wearing a hat to a wedding (including calling the necessity of the traditional Mother-Of-The-Bride’s hat) into question and putting it to the debate!


In the Red Corner, fighting it out on the side of the hat with all the passion and ferocity of a girl who, and I quote, “quite like’s hats” it’s Dom “The Tog Bride”

In the Blue Corner, fighting on behalf of men everywhere in bravely taking on that most fearsome of creatures – the soon-to-be mother-in-law; breaking through the mighty hatted armour to reveal the surely lovely hair-do beneath, it’s Matt “The Gormless Groom”

Hat Vs No Hat


Dom: The hat is a traditional part of the ladies’ wedding ensemble and in particular the Mother-of-the-bride, just as a veil is traditional to the bride herself. There are also further associated traditions such as the Mother of the Bride taking her hat off being the signal for everyone else to follow suit.

Matt: Ladies wearing big hats sometimes makes it rather difficult for them to greet each other, particularly when it’s a kiss on either cheek for the mother of the bride, as you can end up with hats just bumping into each other!

Dom: The mother of the bride’s hat is one of the things that helps her to stand out on the day and be identified as someone very important.

Matt: If needing to put the hat on and off during the day you can easily end up with the dreaded “hat hair” – not a great look for a wedding!

Dom: Hats at a wedding can be a bit of fun, with the ladies sometimes having a little friendly competition over who has the biggest of most elaborate hat!

Matt: Unless some pegs have been provided to “hang your hat”, big hats can be a little awkward to put anywhere once you take them off, ending up taking up all the space on the tables instead of the food!

Dom: Hats provide lots of colour at the wedding and look great in all the pictures!

Matt: But hats can also be a photographer’s worst nightmare as they put big shadows over people’s faces or obscure them from view entirely!

Dom: Wearing a hat can help to keep you cooler during a hot summer drinks reception in the sun!

Matt: Hats are an expensive accessory and can easily end up getting squashed/lost or blown off!

So those are our thoughts but where do you stand? Leave a comment to join the debate!

Hat Vs No Hat


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Bhavna Profile PicBridal preparation is one of my favourite things to photograph. I love the atmosphere that surrounds the bride whilst she gets ready for one of the happiest day of her life. But that is not the only reason I love bridal prep. It’s also because I love seeing the brides outfits and the accessories that she has chosen to go with her dress(es). I mean who doesn’t like shiny sparkly things?

An Indian bridal outfit is not complete without the jewellery and bindis that go with it.

Indian bridal accessories will usually include:

An ornate necklace, sometimes there are layers of necklaces.

Indian Wedding Accessories

Earrings that match the necklace, sometimes these will come with an ornate string attachment that attaches to your hair.

Slave bracelets for the hands, these can also be matched to the rest of the jewellery, I love these. If they’re not too ornate you can pair them up with a lovely black dress too.

Bangles – lots of them! These are usually in the colours of the outfits and some will have gold and silver in them too. I love a bride with lots of bangles.

Shiny Sparkly Things - Indian Wedding Accessories

Kaleeras – usually worn by Sikh brides, these are ornate bells that hang from the wrist, they make a subtle jingly sound.

Anklets (aka Payal) – these are also quite ornate and will sometimes have a jingle to them, in olden days this was to alert the groom of the brides arrival.

Nose ring (nath) – many brides will choose to have a nath, this is a circular ring that is worn on the nose and that attaches to the hair.

Tikka – no this has nothing to do with food. In fact this is an accessory that is worn on the head and comes down to the forehead. This is one of my favourite accessories.

The Accessories that make up an Indian Wedding Outfit

Matha pati – you may have seen these around, as they have become quite popular in Western shops too. They are headpieces that are usually made up of 3 or 5 strings with a centre piece that is ornate and worn along the hairline, once worn it transforms you into a princess!

Jhoomers – these are quite popular hair accessories in the Pakistani community but due to trends, most South Asian brides are now wearing them. They are usually made to match the head piece.

Rings, saree belts and armlets are also popular accessories.

Indian Wedding Accessories

It’s not just the bride however that gets all dolled up like a princess. The groom has to look the part too! Some grooms will have an ornate Kalgi which is a little feather broach that attaches to the turban.

It’s in trend now to wear a pearl necklace or have a string of pearls decorating the sherwani.

Some grooms will carry a sword and wear the pointy shoes that remind me of Aladdin. But they are totally amazing shoes.

Bhavna Barratt - Indian Wedding Accessories

In recent times when gold is expensive and where brides are not fond of wearing real gold jewellery, there has been an increase in brides wearing jewellery made for them by the likes of Bees ( and Kyles ( both UK based companies.

I actually own most of this jewellery because I wore it all when I got married and I sometimes wear the head piece when I’m sat infront of the computer, like today. I like feeling special.

Finally, we got a few requests from readers on how to wear sarees, so here’s a youtube video that will show you how to drape a saree (universal drape).

Now if you’ll excuse me I’ll go back to being a princess.

Have a great weekend.

Indian Wedding Photography by Bhavna Barratt

Profile picture by Tux & Tales Photography

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Bride Vs Groom Awesome Suppliers:
Linus Moran Photography


Today we’d like to introduce you to the latest member of the BvG Awesome Supplier family, the fantastic Linus Moran Photography! Linus is a Dorset based wedding photographer, describing his style as documentary and contemporary and travels across the UK and abroad capturing beautiful moments as they unfold. We wanted to get to know Linus a little more and caught up with him to ask him one or two questions…


Tell us a little about yourself, how did you get started in wedding photography and what inspired you?
I’m an ex Fleet Street photographer having worked for the national tabloids for around 15 years in London, along with having lived in Eastern Europe running my own news and features agency.  I returned to the UK in 2009, settled in Dorset and found myself gravitating towards wedding photography as a new career.

The people that first inspired me to get into photography back in ’87 were people like Bob Carlos Clarke for his B&W portraiture, Tom Sheehan (Melody Maker) and war photojournalists like Don McCullin.

How long have you been photographing weddings for?

I’ve been photographing weddings professionally for 5 years now.

What’s your style, what defines you as a photographer?

My style is ‘relaxed’ and mostly documentary.  My emphasis is creating a flowing narative throughout the day, whether I do this purely in my imagery or accompanying audio recordings that I use in my photofilms.  I use these to offer a new dimension on wedding day coverage, recording the vows and wedding breakfast speeches, selecting snippets that flow and compliment in the final edit.

Whatʼs your biggest achievement so far in your career?

Well, I haven’t been chasing any awards as yet, but I would have to say that the biggest achievement has to be ‘stepping forward’ on each and every occasion.  Every wedding I cover, results in better work, polishing my skill set and delivering a higher quality product.  I have been very active in sourcing new and exciting products and will always endeavor to do so.  It gives me a buzz as long as this is happening and I am sure this will continue far into the future.  Wedding photography is a very rewarding genre within which to work.

What advice would you give to a couple when choosing their wedding photographer?

Quite simply there are two critera.  Make an informed choice according to their style and character.  To some ‘character’ may seem a little odd and indeed it did strike me as being the case in the past.  But I can certainly see a difference in the work I produce when I connect with clients and tune in to their humour, it helps so much with anticipating reactions and capturing the real defining moments.

Could you tell us a little about the packages you offer?

My photography collections start from £995 for half day coverage and go up in stages to £2500 (to include Folio book and photofilm video).  I can happily offer a 10% discount on anyone quoting this wonderful site should they be interested.

What are your favourite 3 photographs you have taken and why?

My favourite 3 photographs currently are:

Linus Moran Photography

(above) Father of the bride – first dance.  It was the first time I was still around to capture the father of the bride dancing with his daughter.  Its full of mood and has just enough detail to tell a wonderful story, capturing a great moment!

BvsG Favourite - 2

Wedding speech – A very emotional tribute being paid by the step father of the bride that reduced both the bride and her mother inlaw to tears.  This frame shows them both biting their lips, trying to hold back the tears.

BvsG Favourite - 3

This was from a recent wedding where the shot naturally came together.  Unknown to me at the time the mother of the bride was a keen photographer, whom whether she was thinking pictures, or just that an extra mirror would be handy – I don’t know.   Either way, it presented naturally this double take reflection composition that looked great!  All I had to do was to manoeuvre myself out of the frame, avoiding my own reflection.  It was only on the edit that I noticed the Brides initials in the main mirror top RH side – so another lovely tie in to the day!

What piece of advice would you give to couples when planning their wedding day?

Dont get too fixated on the details.  Yes, its great to have a personal input, its great for everyone to see but the real emphasis should not be the wedding, rather its the marriage that counts!  Relax and enjoy with the confidence that you have hired a professional to capture all the precious moments.

Whatʼs your favourite thing about being a wedding photographer?

My favourite thing has been discovering my change in perspective towards weddings.  Years ago I had an attitude of wedding photography being ‘same thing, different day, different people’ whereas now I love the whole wedding day experience.  I now see every wedding as individual and unique as its not just a ceremony, a legal duty, or a set formula.  Weddings are about the people and we are all so very different.  The connection, the humour, the emotion – these are the things to capture and within which I thrive.  I get a great picture and then I want a better one.  The wedding day provides an environment within which I can compete amongst myself, raise the bar and walk away knowing I have captured precious memories that both my clients and I will love!


Thanks so much to Linus for taking the time to talk to us and telling us a little bit more about his photography. You can find out more about Linus on our Find A Supplier Page or check out the Linus Moran Photograpy Website to see more of Linus’s gorgeous work! You can also find Linus on his Facebook or Twitter Page.

Phone: 01305 755663
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Last week we shared with you part one of a great DIY video tutorial by the guys over at The Great British Florist and so, with your buttonholes hopefully starting to take shape, today we thought we’d best get back to it! Over to Jan and Izzy to show you the final steps!
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matt-avatar WhitenedOver the last couple of weekends I’ve had the pleasure of filming two of the most relaxed and fun weddings I’ve had the pleasure of being a part of, each taking place in genuinely unique and incredibly special venues - the couple’s family homes.

Both receptions took place in open marquee style structures over the gardens and despite the weather bringing heavy downpours at opposite ends of the day on both occasions the intimacy of the space meant that the rain was never a problem for either. Whilst admittedly accommodating so many guests means the necessity of a reasonably sized space it’s perhaps surprising how much room there really can be with temporary structures like these, with neither garden feeling on the face of it particularly huge despite providing plenty of space.

There are of course amazing wedding venues up and down the country and even abroad, but there’s just something so personal about holding a wedding at the place where you grew up, the place where together you came for all those family meals, the place that holds so many life-shaping memories for you. It may not sound as glamorous as having your wedding at a castle or stately home or at an exclusive hotel, but for me a wedding is all about personality and revealing something of yourselves in your choices, and it doesn’t get much more personal than your own home!

Image by York Place Studios

Image by York Place Studios

There are other advantages too; one of the biggest obstacles to having your wedding day exactly the way you want it, with every last handpicked detail arranged just as you’d dreamed is time. Hiring a venue is expensive and, whilst some venues do offer a certain amount of flexibility, chances are (unless perhaps you pay a significant extra fee) that you’re only going to have access from either the night before or even the morning of the wedding. Those time limits generally mean that unless you have an extremely well organised team ready to work through the night to have everything just perfect that you may not be able to do quite as much as you might have hoped to really make the venue your own. When the wedding is in your back garden however, apart from perhaps a comparatively small additional cost for hiring a marquee for a few extra days, you have all the time in the world to get everything just right.

Without the cost of hiring a venue as such you might also have a little more to spend on putting together the most kick-ass team of suppliers to help you along the way, from an amazing catering team to hiring a lighting and sound company to light up the garden and make it extra-spectacular for the evening. With a little imagination even the simplest of lawns can become an incredible sight and having your wedding at home gives you the level of control over events to see your vision through from start to finish, (with a little special help from some helpful family members!)

So if you’re thinking of having a garden-party style wedding then make it the real thing – a relaxed affair in familiar surroundings allowing everyone to share in where you’ve come from as they witness the next important chapter of your lives.

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Today our Story Frame tells the story of a father. A father of ex-military background with battle-hardened armour who, as photographer Linus Moran puts it, in the run up to the wedding firmly projected an “I’m not one of those old softies” persona. A father whose strength was matched only by his pride in his daughter. A father whose armour could be seen swiftly crumbling away as he watched his little girl marry the man she loved. 

We could have chosen any number of lovely moments between father and daughter from Linus’s take on the day and we can’t wait to share the full Rock and Roll wedding with you coming soon to the blog, but for us this shot captures the moment the armour well and truly cracked just perfectly.
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