Well, our “gormless groom” may not be so gormless about weddings these days after a few years in the industry as both blogger and videographer, but today we’ve decided to take him out of his comfort zone and see if we witness a spectacular return to form as we put him into the ring to tackle something he knows absolutely nothing about: hair and makeup! Every girl wants to look her absolute best on her wedding day, but the question of the day is this: should you go with something more naturally in keeping with your usual look or is it better to change things up and go for all-out glam? Time to put it to the debate!
In the Red Corner, playing the girly card and going for all-out glam, never has a girl tried so many makeup tests as in the run-in to her own wedding (p.s. thanks to the ladies at Brown’s, John Lewis, Debenhams and pretty much every shop with a resident makeup artist in the York and indeed Birmingham area for humouring her…) it’s Dom “The Tog Bride”
In the Blue Corner, being pitied enough to at least only have to fight the natural makeup side of the argument but brushing up (get it?!) on his mascara and err… other types of makeup knowledge nonetheless, it’s Matt “The Definitely Gormless In This Case Groom”
Hair and Makeup – Glammed Up Vs Natural
Dom: As the bride you want to look and feel completely fabulous on your wedding day and really blow everyone away (particularly your groom) when you walk down that aisle looking a little different from your normal look and absolutely perfect.
Matt: Weddings are about committing to the person you fell in love with and saying you love them just the way they are, without the need to change or impress you. Whilst you of course want to look your best changing your appearance completely on the wedding day seems to contradict what it’s all about.
Dom: But changing your look for the day doesn’t change who you are as a person and your wedding day is one of the few chances you have to really pamper yourself, put on the most beautiful dress you’ll ever wear and make yourself look and feel like a princess.
Matt: Having a completely different look can sometimes be empowering but sometimes can just leave you feeling uncomfortable and not yourself. Feeling like someone else on your wedding day is the last thing you want!
Dom: Many brides will hire a hair and makeup artist for their big day and it’s one of the few occasions you really can try something different knowing that they have the skill and expertise to make you look absolutely incredible. In our day to day lives you generally don’t have that chance.
Matt: But you don’t have to necessarily change your look to get the best out of a professional hair and makeup artist, they can help you simply to perfect it and have you looking the best version of yourself without straying too far from your natural look.
Dom: If you’re already someone who uses a lot of makeup and have a clear style then it might be strange to leave that look behind and adopt a very natural look on your wedding day.
Matt: But perhaps going from heavy makeup to something that looks more natural on the wedding day might be a beautiful surprise and send a clear message of “this is the real girl you’re going to marry”
Dom: If you’re wearing a big dramatic dress that’s completely different in style from anything you would normally wear then it makes sense to go for an equally dramatic look with your hair and makeup – particularly if you’re wearing something like a birdcage veil or hair accessories that may define how your hair can be styled anyway.
Matt: You can equally well accessorise a more natural look to help you look more glamorous without going for a complete departure from the way you normally look. After all you want to feel the best you’ve ever looked without feeling like someone else completely.
So those are our (surprisingly coherent) thoughts but where do you stand? Would you go for the glammed-up look or keep it natural? Place your vote in our poll below or leave a comment to join the debate!
We’ve spoken at length about the many and varied different styles of wedding photography but the message that’s perhaps not quite filtered through as strongly yet is that there is also a huge range in styles of wedding videography.
Videography has come a long way in recent years thanks in part to the new breed of incredibly high quality cameras with a small footprint and an affordable price tag, along with all the accessories that have come with them. With sliders, jibs and even drones hovering above to take some aerial shots now available to the wedding videographer it’s now quite possible to create a wedding film with all the gloss and slick camera moves of a hollywood movie, but that hollywood feel is certainly not for everyone…
Some videographers will look for that glossy feel and use all kinds of equipment, others prefer to shoot indie style with little more than a camera and a monopod. Some prefer to capture everything exactly as it happens, others prefer to direct some of the action. Some are looking to produce a short, fast-moving film, others are looking to capture a longer film with fewer cuts and more extended coverage. Some will choose to capture the shot from angle A, some will prefer angle B. There’s no right or wrong way to film a wedding, but chances are there is a way that you as a couple like more than any other, and that’s why it’s important to find a videographer who (more or less) matches your preferred style.
The range of styles is perhaps broadened further by an element that photography is not concerned with: the use of sound. The choices of music and the amount of background audio, inclusion of speeches or interviews or simply the way that these elements are combined can go as far towards defining the style as the way the film is shot in the first place. Just as a Tarantino soundtrack is likely to set up a completely different style of movie than a John Williams composition, whilst not necessarily using the same piece of music over and over different videographers are likely to have differing overarching approaches to their choice in music. Sound makes up 50% of a good film and the music is such a defining factor in creating the style and feel of the film and t’s not generally as simple as asking “can we use this piece of music on the video please?” as that musical choice may in turn demand an entirely different style of editing that is not in step with the type of film that particular videographer wants to make. It’s important therefore to watch a range of any videographer’s films and listen out for the way they use the music and make sure you feel happy in their soundtrack choices just as much as the the way they put their films together.
Another aspect to consider is if you are also having a photographer are the photographer and videographer’s styles compatible? Whilst hopefully the photographer and videographer will always do their best not to impede each other’s shots, at the end of the day you are paying both to capture the best imagery they can and if their styles are at polar opposites then chances are they are going to be forced to get in each other’s way. For example if you’ve chosen an unobtrusive documentary photographer but a “Marryoke” style wedding video where the guests all sing along direct to camera then the photographer is not going to be able to get a lot of those natural shots you’ve asked them to capture. Similarly if you’ve chosen a documentary style videographer and a photographer that poses every shot then it’s going to be difficult for the videographer to get the natural shots. On the other hand if you’ve chosen a photographer and videographer who both like to pose the majority of their shots then you need to make sure you’ve allowed plenty of time for both to get their shots separately. Photographers and videographers will of course try to naturally find a way to work together but it is just important to make sure they’re not working at polar opposites!
Many videographers travel all across the country (and indeed the world) so there are generally no geographical restrictions on being able to find the right videographer for you. If you’re unsure what style you’re looking for then video streaming services like Vimeo are a good place to start as they’re a great way to explore a range of styles before narrowing down your choices.
At the end of the day only you can choose the style of film that’s right for you, but make sure you do your research and fall in love with your videographer’s style before you book rather than asking them to change it later as for most their style is the way they see the world and not something that they can alter upon request. Wedding films are something to be cherished for a lifetime and a truly unique perspective on your day – make sure you put in the time to find the right style of wedding videography for you.
For those celebrity spotters amongst you (ourselves included!) we have a fab infographic from Peter Edwards photography today, all about those big-name celebrities who have stepped back from the limelight to act as bridesmaid for the day. So these celebs have done it, but who would be your celebrity bridesmaid?
We don’t normally do this here on Bride Vs Groom but today we wanted to pay a little tribute to a man who was a key figure in both of our childhoods. Robin Williams was a man who brought us, and millions around the world, great joy with his incredible wit, natural warmth and spellbinding performances. We grew up on his films and it’s devastating to know that a man so loved by everyone he knew and millions who had never even met him didn’t feel that same love for himself. Robin Williams, you made us laugh, cry and laugh some more, you inspired our sense of playfulness and taught us never to lose the wonderment of childhood. You will never be forgotten. As a now famous tweet has quoted, Genie, you’re free.
When I was a kid I always hated roller-coaster’s. It wasn’t that I had any issue with heights or that I was particularly scared about going upside down or diving up and down at high speeds, it was mostly that I spent the entire (usually 2 hours!) queuing worried about feeling sick and looking like an idiot in front of my friends. It was only at a recent trip to Flamingo Land with friends that I realised that the only way to tackle a roller coaster is to jump on, scream your head off and enjoy the ride…
It occurs to me that weddings are a bit like that – months of nervous build-up and worrying about what’s going to happen on the day and when it finally arrives and it’s your turn to step onto the ‘coaster you can either continue to worry about something going wrong and miss your chance to enjoy it or you can strap yourself in, scream with excitement and prepare yourself for one hell of a ride.
The most fun weddings are always those where the couple completely let go and allow nothing to stand in the way of them enjoying their big day, even if their plans fall away around them. One such couple’s wedding has become somewhat famed over the weekend as our friend Jon at S6 Photography was on hand to capture a truly beautiful wedding that ended up taking place in the back-end of a hurricane, with their Tipi flooding and water leaking through the roof of even their hastily put-together backup venue. Decorations were destroyed, the bride’s dress was drenched and the guests were forced to wade through huge pools of water. The bride and groom could have despaired, they could have cancelled everything and added tears to the rapidly growing puddles, but not this bride and groom. This was their day and nothing and nobody was going to stop them enjoying their day. They simply rolled up their trousers and waded right in.
This is an extreme example but so often bride and grooms allow the smaller things to stand in the way of enjoying their day. You can plan a wedding to the minutest of details but at the end of the day it’s the people who are there that matter, everything else is just, well, stuff. Chances are something will go slightly wrong at your wedding no matter how well planned it is, but at the end of the day as long as you can get married surrounded by the people you love does anything else really matter?
So as you stand in that queue, staring up at the daunting ride in front of you, quit worrying about what could go wrong, just get on, strap yourself in and scream if you wanna go faster.