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When it comes to the big entrance of the bride and that emotive walk down the aisle there’s only one way to do it right? The waiting groom, a furtive glance back as the bridesmaids make their way towards him and then that incredible moment when he sees the bride for the first time. It’s a beautiful moment but is it really the only way to do it or are there alternatives that might be just as powerful?
Time to find out!


In the Red Corner this week representing the more traditional walk down the aisle, having had a somewhat dramatic entrance herself appearing from the midst of a storm, it’s Dom “The Tog Bride”

In the Blue Corner, arguing for a slightly different approach, let’s face it he just wants to dance down the aisle, it’s Matt “The Gormless Groom”

Walking Down The Aisle – Traditional Vs Alternative


Dom: The walk down the aisle is one of the most magical moments of a wedding day – I adore the moment the groom sees his bride for the first time, it’s so full of emotion – just perfect.

Matt: But that moment is always rushed as straight after the ceremony begins and you don’t really get chance to enjoy it – what about having a private first look before the ceremony and then walking down the aisle together, entering as boyfriend and girlfriend and exiting husband and wife.

Dom: Having the groom wait at the end of the aisle for the bride is steeped in tradition and symbolism – two separate bodies coming together as one as they’re joined in matrimony.

Matt: In some cultures the tradition is for the groom to also have a grand entrance surrounded by his groomsmen before the bride enters surrounded by her bridesmaids – why should the bride have all the fun?!

Dom: Certain venues like churches may only allow the traditional entrance of the bride as it is a fundamental part of the traditional ceremony.

Matt: If it’s not your first marriage then it can be fun to mix things up a little bit and make it a little different and the entrance of the bride and groom can be one of the ways to do that.

Dom: Part of the tradition of the bride walking down the aisle is that her father walks by her side and gives her away. This is a really special moment between father and daughter and surely one that you want to keep hold of.

Matt: But for some Brides their father is sadly unable to walk them down the aisle and so an alternative, such as walking down together, might be the perfect solution.

Dom: Normally the groom arrives first for the ceremony and is partially there to play host to the guests and greet them and make sure they’re well looked after. If the Groom is having a “grand entrance” with his groomsmen and can’t be seen by anyone beforehand then there’s no-one there to perform this duty.

Matt: If you’re a shy person then for the bride walking down the aisle with all eyes just on you could be incredibly nerve wracking, and for the groom you may be too self-conscious to let your emotions fully show in public. Seeing each other first then walking down the aisle together means you can be stronger together and avoid some of those nerves.

So those are our thoughts but where do you stand? As always you can join the debate by leaving a comment or, unless you’re Scottish and a bit fed up of polls by now, you can simply place your vote in our poll below!

Walking Down The Aisle - Traditional Vs Alternative
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  • Kayleigh Herbertson - September 23, 2014 - 1:23 pm

    When I was younger I hated the idea of walking down the aisle with my dad but now I see it as my joining another family. I suppose in that sense it is quite selfish! The Groom is also joining my family, but there’s no symbolism for him. I’ll also admit to wanting a big entrance just to see the look on my groom’s face when he first sees me in my dress!ReplyCancel

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Today we’d like to continue our “Top tips” series with a little advice for those choosing to be married in a traditional church setting. We love a good church wedding and here’s a little advice to make sure you get the best out of your ceremony!


  • If you’re having professional photographers and videographers present make sure you discuss the rules of filming and photos with your vicar at the time of confirming your booking. Many vicars will not allow photos or videos to be taken in their church or may allow it but only from certain positions or allow it only if you pay an additional fee. There’s no fixed rule on this whatsoever across churches so if it’s important to you to have this part of the day captured fully then make sure this has been agreed upon in advance to avoid disappointment later!
  • Consider banning guests from taking photos and videos during the ceremony and leave it to the professionals. Often guests get so involved in taking pictures that they don’t fully connect with the ceremony by watching it with their own eyes, and with distracting flashes going off it can also spoil it for you too. The professionals are there for a reason – have faith in them to capture everything fully.
  • Pick a seat, not a side. In recent years it’s become less popular having a “bride’s side” and “groom’s side” – nowadays most couples’s allow their guests to find a seat wherever they can, and for good reason. A wedding is a coming together of two families and keeping them completely separated seems to go against this idea. Having everyone together also means you avoid any awkward situations with one side being dramatically more full than the other!
  • Consider having musicians at your ceremony. The church organ is a traditional part of the wedding but it can be lovely to have other musicians present as well who can entertain your guests as they arrive and during the signing of the register and even provide a more customised song choice for the entrance of the bride and the exitlude. If you have a friend who’s a great singer or musician this can be particularly special and memorable.
  • Decide whether you want solely religious readings. Generally it’s important to have at least one reading from the bible at a church wedding but most vicars are also quite happy for you to include non-religious texts as well which are sometimes easier to relate to for non-religious members of the congregation.
  • Brief the ushers on their responsibilities. It’s important to make sure that the groomsmen know what they need to do once they’re at the church. We’d ideally suggest having someone at the gate to let people know about parking and direct them towards the church, someone to greet the guests at the door and give out orders of service and someone guiding the guests to their seats leaving the groom and best man free to talk to the guests, discuss anything they need to with the vicar and make sure the groom is all ready for the ceremony to begin!
  • Bring baskets of confetti for the bridesmaids / flower-girls to hand out as the guests exit the church. Most people don’t bring their own confetti to weddings any more and if there’s visible sign that confetti is supposed to be thrown (like the baskets) then often this is forgotten entirely. Also if you want to have a confetti shot with the church in the background check with the vicar whether it’s ok to throw confetti within the church grounds as many churches don’t allow this.

So we hope you’ve found these tips useful and we’ll be offering more top tips for different types of ceremony very soon!

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Bonjour, Merci and other French words I don’t really understand. Bride Vs Groom would like to apologise for today’s lack of informative/nonsensical information for baffled brides and grooms but we have in fact spent the day relocating Bride Vs Groom HQ (temporarily at least) to a more inspiring setting in the heart of Normandy, France. Well I say more inspiring but as they don’t seem to be able to serve up a decent cup of tea around here perhaps not (did those brave men die on the fields of Agincourt in vain?) So normal service will be resuming tomorrow once we’ve fished Small Dog out of the pool but until then VIVE LA WEDDING!!


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Iiiiiiiiiiiiiit’s CAKE TIME AGAIN!!! Yes it’s our favourite time of the week: time for the third epic DIY wedding cake from the chaps at and it looks every bit as delicious as the last two! So stop watching the Great British Bake Off and get baking yourself to create one of these amazing Candy Wafer Wedding Cakes… remember practice makes perfect both on the baking and eating side of cake prep, honest!


Perfectly uniform cake decorations are easy to come by when you rely on candy! This four-tiered wedding cake features 12 even rows of pretty dots. The secret is inexpensive, easy-to-find wafer candies. Use a variety of colors, like we did, or keep the look monochromatic. You can further customize your cake with different dot patterns. For instance, instead of covering the entire cake, you could just do one stripe on each layer. Or, create a chevron pattern. The sky’s the limit! Get our clear step-by-step instructions for decorating this wedding cake below.


  • Cost: about $60 (around £38.00)

    Serves: about 60 guests


    1. 2 12-inch cake rounds
    2. 2 10-inch cake rounds
    3. 2 8-inch cake rounds
    4. 1 4-inch cake round
    5. Buttercream frosting
    6. 3 wooden dowels
    7. 20-30 packages of candy wafers (such as Necco), or enough to cover your entire cake


    1. Begin by placing one of the 12-inch cake rounds on your cake pedestal. Using an offset spatula, spread a thin layer of buttercream over the top.
    2. Repeat the process with the second 12-inch cake round and then the remaining five layers in descending size.
    3. Once the entire cake is stacked, spread a thin layer of frosting over the entire cake, beginning at the top, and working your way down. This is known as a crumb coat.
    4. Chill the cake to set the crumb coat before moving the the final frosting step.
    5. While the cake is chilling, open your candy and sort out the colors you want to use, removing any broken wafers. For this four-tiered cake, we used four different colors of wafer candy.
    6. After the cake has chilled, spread frosting over the crumb coat, creating as smooth a surface as possible.
    7. When all the layers are complete, cut your wooden dowels to the same length as the height of the cake. Carefully insert them into the cake, through all the layers for support.
    8. Decide how many rows of candy you can fit on each tier, and then use small dabs of frosting to adhere them to the surface of the frosted cake. Create rows of candy both vertically and horizontally at the same time to ensure the rows stay straight.
    9. Keep the frosted and decorated cake cool before serving.
    10. When it’s time to display the cake, crown the top layer with your wedding cake topper. To create this monogram, we used pliars to twist jewelry wire into the shape of a B. Be sure to shape a stem to insert it into the cake.

    Our Cake & Frosting Recipe Picks
    Many grocery stores and bakeries will let you purchase baked, unfrosted cake rounds, but if you’re comfortable in the kitchen, it’s simple to bake them yourself! We adore Smitten Kitchen’s recipes for Chocolate Butter Cake and Vanilla Buttermilk Cake.

    Savory Sweet Life has an uncomplicated recipe for Classic Vanilla Buttercream Frosting. For a snow white version, try substituting the unsalted butter for shortening and adding a 1/2 teaspoon of butter flavoring. Using clear vanilla extract and butter flavoring will also help prevent your frosting from becoming slightly tinted.

    TOP TIP:
    For additional support for stacked tiered cakes like this one, use corrugated cake boards between each tier. Cake boards come in a variety of sizes and can also be cut to fit the shape you need. 

You can find the original recipe from Wayfair here:

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matt-avatar WhitenedIn the next week or so, whilst on our travels, I will be arriving at the much feared age of 30. This is one of those landmark birthdays that so often prove a time of reflection, of consideration of the future and whether I have reached all those incredible life targets that I swore to myself I would achieve before leaving my twenties behind…

But personally I’ve never really been one for life targets. Sure there are things I wanted to accomplish at some point and still are: things that I’ve worked towards professionally and personally, some of which I’ve achieved already, others I continue to work towards each day, but there’s simply no predicting what life may throw at you on a day to day basis and, as far as I’m concerned, sometimes it’s best to put personal deadlines aside and just go along for the ride. Hopes and dreams are a wonderful thing and an incredible motivator, but if we get too caught up with putting a deadline on them and don’t allow the flexibility for those dreams to evolve and grow then they become nothing more than a fixation – as likely to hold us back as to inspire.

I guess 25 was my last “landmark” birthday and back then I never could have predicted (or dreamed) that at 30 I would be running a successful wedding videography business, that Dom and I would write our own wedding blog, nor that we would even be working together at all in any capacity. Had I followed what would have been my “before I’m 30 bucket list” relentlessly then none of that would have been possible and this amazing opportunity would probably have been forgone. Starting a business has been hard work and meant putting other dreams on hold, but I’m a firm believer that if I work hard and do what feels right then the important things will happen one day, and those that don’t probably never really mattered in the first place.

So with less than a week to go until I hit the 30 year deadline what do I still “have to” achieve before the day arrives? Well as my unanticipated new dream of a job is taking me to France this week my main aim is to find a nice bottle from a local vineyard, stock up on brie and take a day to celebrate before settling in to see what new adventures this brave new decade brings with it.



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