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Today’s story frame is one of our favourite shots from the gorgeous wedding of Gemma and Martin as the newlyweds got into their car and enjoyed their first private moment together as husband and wife. This is one of our favourite shots as the day and perfectly sums up this incredibly sweet couple who were just perfect together. What sweet nothings Martin whispered into Gemma’s ear in this moment may be a mystery but that smile tells you everything you need to know about this fantastic pair.
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Including your guests in your wedding in some way sounds in principle like a great idea, but when it comes to asking your guests to put on some kind of performance during the wedding day is it better to leave it to the hired pros? Sounds like a Friday Fight-Out to me!


In the Red Corner, fighting the case for guest performances, she herself sang at her own wedding along with encouraging friends to grab their guitars and casually sing and play at the reception to their heart’s content, it’s Dom “The Tog Bride”.

In the Blue Corner, arguing to bring in the professionals, probably out of fear of someone asking him to remember how to play Trombone at their wedding… it’s Matt “The Gormless Groom”

Time to fight this one out:

Guest Performances Vs Pros Only

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Dom: Having guests performing at the wedding makes it so personal and special to you and makes it so much more memorable than someone you don’t know playing along.

Matt: As with asking friends to take care of any part of the wedding as a favour there’s always a chance they might not be as reliable as a hired professional. They may not find the time to rehearse beforehand and in their enthusiasm and willingness to please you may over-promise on what they’re able to actually deliver.

Dom: Involving the guests and encouraging others to join in too can create a great party atmosphere as people just get up and play and feel more involved when it is friends of theirs performing.

Matt: Your guests want to be part of your day and get to relax with their friends and have some drinks. Asking them to be responsible for entertaining everyone can prevent them from fully enjoying the day and you may find they lose interest in their entertaining duties as the night wears on.

Dom: Your friends know your tastes in music and know which songs have a special significance to you and it’s lovely to have them perform something to you that you may not even have thought about.

Matt: Unless your friends actually play together in a band then they may have a very limited repertoire of songs they all know and may not be able to adjust to the tone of the evening as easily as a professional wedding band.

Dom: Even if you hire a professional for the reception, having a friend perform a song that is really special to you during the ceremony can both make it even more special and also make them feel really involved in the ceremony if they have no other official role. That song is one you will always remember.

Matt: Wedding Bands and DJ’s generally bring along their own equipment and have everything they need in terms of lighting and sound gear to create the right atmosphere, whereas your friends may be relying on borrowing gear which may or may not turn up or be the right gear for the job. Hiring a professional covers your bases more safely.

Dom: Part of the fun of having a band made out of friends is actually that they might not get everything quite right but make it up as they go along and get the other guests to help them along the way… forgetting the lyrics to a particular song can end up with the whole room singing along and the atmosphere is just electric!

Matt: Professional wedding bands are usually really good at making sure they include songs for every generation so that everyone gets up on the dance floor. Friends are more likely to only be able to play songs they particularly enjoy which may appeal to you but may not encourage the older generations to bust a groove!

So those are our thoughts but where do you stand? Would you ask friends to entertain the guests or do you think it’s best to hire a professional? Place your vote below or leave a comment to join the debate!

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matt-avatar WhitenedAs one half of two videographers, on a wedding day my morning typically starts with the groom, capturing the action as the groom and his groomsmen don their ties, put on those cufflinks and get ready for the day. Hanging out with the boys in the morning is usually a lot of fun with a great sense of camaraderie often evident between close mates on such an important day. But after spending so many mornings with the boys I’ve come to realise there’s one or two things that you maybe haven’t thought about before the big day…the-spiced-pear-wedding-photographer_0013

  • First of all, if you were planning on getting ready on your own I would highly recommend inviting your best man and ushers to come and get ready at the same place. The morning of your wedding should be every bit of fun as the rest of the day and having your closest friends around you as you prepare really makes the occasion and prevents you from getting too nervous or anxious about the day. It’s also great for photos and video so where possible it’s great to get your photographer/videographer to come along too…
  • This may seem obvious but if you are going to have a photographer/videographer present for the getting ready shots then make sure you’re not completely ready before they arrive. Mostly they’re there to capture the atmosphere and maybe a few shots of you putting on your ties, cufflinks and jackets but if you’re unsure then talk to your photographer/videographer before the big day so that they can time their arrival right for you. Oh and speaking of ties…
  • Make sure you’ve worked out and practiced the type of knot you want to do your tie with before the big day and make sure everyone else knows how it’s done too. This is particularly the case if you’re wearing a cravat as, depending on the type, these can be quite different to tying a normal office tie.
  • Bring some scissors. When you come to put on your suit you will often find that the pockets are stitched up in order to hold the shape and that somewhere a label will be stitched to the outside of the suit. Having witnessed some innovative but occasionally risky approaches to getting these done ranging from nail clippers to cigarette lighters to pulling at the stitching and hoping for the best, a pair of scissors is definitely a must have item!
  • Pocket squares. There are a range of ways to wear a pocket square/handkerchief as you can see on this link: but make sure that you’ve decided on the look you’re after before it comes to folding it and once again practice to make sure you can recreate it on the day. Oh and pocket squares are worn on the same side as the buttonhole – the left.
  • Buttonholes are another oft confusing aspect. As already mentioned these should be worn on the left and, theoretically, through the actual buttonhole and pinned behind (although formal wedding suits normally have a loop of fabric behind the lapel to hold the buttonhole in place. If your flower is designed to show off the stork though you may need to pin it fully rather than put it through your lapel. To do so start from behind go through the lapel over the front of the flower and back through the other side.
  • Ushers – use this chance to check your responsibilities with the groom. If they’re expecting you to help people find their seats check whether anything more than the front row needs leaving free for the wedding party and whether or not they have a specific side for guests of the bride or groom to sit on.

So chaps we hope these few little tips will help you to get ready stress-free so you have time to stop off for a pint on the way… sorry I mean time to relax and contemplate how wonderful your wedding day is going to be.

P.S. it’s probably best if the best-man holds onto that hip-flask, you don’t want it showing through your pockets!

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Deciding whether or not to change your surname after marriage is a tricky business and there are all kinds of things to consider before taking the plunge from reasons relating to your profession to family ties and children. Fortunately for us Peter Edwards Photography have produced this great infographic to help you to make up your mind!

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Our friends at Simply Bridal have produced another fab infographic to help all of you struggling brides and grooms to put together your perfect cohesive wedding theme to make sure you make maximum impact on the big day! So here’s one or two ideas to help you take your first steps along the way…

Cohesive Themed Wedding HR

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