In the next week or so, whilst on our travels, I will be arriving at the much feared age of 30. This is one of those landmark birthdays that so often prove a time of reflection, of consideration of the future and whether I have reached all those incredible life targets that I swore to myself I would achieve before leaving my twenties behind…
But personally I’ve never really been one for life targets. Sure there are things I wanted to accomplish at some point and still are: things that I’ve worked towards professionally and personally, some of which I’ve achieved already, others I continue to work towards each day, but there’s simply no predicting what life may throw at you on a day to day basis and, as far as I’m concerned, sometimes it’s best to put personal deadlines aside and just go along for the ride. Hopes and dreams are a wonderful thing and an incredible motivator, but if we get too caught up with putting a deadline on them and don’t allow the flexibility for those dreams to evolve and grow then they become nothing more than a fixation – as likely to hold us back as to inspire.
I guess 25 was my last “landmark” birthday and back then I never could have predicted (or dreamed) that at 30 I would be running a successful wedding videography business, that Dom and I would write our own wedding blog, nor that we would even be working together at all in any capacity. Had I followed what would have been my “before I’m 30 bucket list” relentlessly then none of that would have been possible and this amazing opportunity would probably have been forgone. Starting a business has been hard work and meant putting other dreams on hold, but I’m a firm believer that if I work hard and do what feels right then the important things will happen one day, and those that don’t probably never really mattered in the first place.
So with less than a week to go until I hit the 30 year deadline what do I still “have to” achieve before the day arrives? Well as my unanticipated new dream of a job is taking me to France this week my main aim is to find a nice bottle from a local vineyard, stock up on brie and take a day to celebrate before settling in to see what new adventures this brave new decade brings with it.