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Bhavna Profile PicFood, the one thing that is talked about at every wedding and for years after…I’ve heard aunties (all the women who are likely to be the same age as your actual aunties) at weddings, ‘did you see what the bride was wearing, no but I didn’t like the food’ – People always seem to come back to talk about food and so food is an integral part of an Indian wedding celebration.

Indian weddings are lavish when it comes to food, we have an extensive menu and not just for the one day, but for all the events leading up to the wedding day itself and after. For me, as long as there is gulab jamun, I’m a happy bunny.

It’s paramount to have good food, but its even more important that you keep in within your budget, when you’ve got 250 guests, the cost of catering can be a large part of your wedding budget.

Planning a menu can be tricky, for example if you’re having a Hindu wedding do you go for a vegetarian menu for lunch and then a non vegetarian menu for the evening reception? Or do you just have one big vegetarian dinner? What are the preferences for both sides of the family, what do they like and not like…lots to decide about.

So first decide on the vegetarian/non vegetarian option.


Then choose a caterer who can provide you with the best options, so in the case of a Hindu wedding, if you are having a fully vegetarian meal, then make sure that the caterer you choose specializes in providing this type of cuisine to ensure quality of taste and a wider selection of items that you can have on your menu.

Make sure that you always cater for more people than you have invited, the last thing you want is for your guests to go home hungry, so a buffer of 20 guests may be an option.

If you are having a fusion wedding, you may want to incorporate different cuisines within the menu so that you cater for Asian and non Asian guests.


You then need to decide if you are having a sit down meal or a buffet and whether your starters will be served as canapés during the reception or when guests are waiting, or if they will be served on the tables.

For your starters try and include at least three to four items, the most popular choices are samosas, gol gappe, chaat and aloo tikkis, offer plenty of salad for those who don’t want to eat all the fried food.

Bhavna Barratt - Planning your indian wedding : the menuThe main courses that are popular include at least 2 vegetarian options and 2 non vegetarian options, some popular choices are dal makhani, some kind of chicken or lamb curry, a vegetarian curry and naan bread with some condiments.

This is then followed by dessert (my favourite part). At an Indian wedding you’ll often find gulab jamuns, ras malai and ice cream.  If you’ve not tried any of these, you will want to find the nearest Indian sweet shop and try them all out.

indian wedding : the menu

In all, you want to first decide what cuisine you want to go for, then choose your caterers, make sure you go and taste the items you want to have on your menu (keep the aunties voices in mind). Once you’ve done this place your order and decide whether you will have a sit down meal or a buffet and don’t forget keep the budget in check at all times.

Right, I’m off to eat some gulab jamuns with ice-cream. Happy wedding planning.

Now go watch this to find out what the desserts are…

Bhav xx

planning your big fat indian wedding : The menu

Indian Wedding Photography by Bhavna Barratt

Profile picture by Tux & Tales Photography

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The Engagement Ring – a universal symbol of  the commitment between two people to spend the rest of their lives together, but just how long has the engagement ring been worn? Today we have a great infographic from the guys at Bespoke Diamonds to reveal all along with one or two facts about perhaps the most famous engagement ring in the world today…


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Well it’s that time of the week where lately we’ve been destroying diets at the very sight of‘s delicious DIY wedding cake recipes! Last week we had a rather perfect looking Candy Wafer Wedding Cake and today we’d like to share with you some tips on how to make your very own textured buttercream cake!

Happy tasting!


Feeling extra crafty? Why not tackle both the cake and the cake topper?! A swirly textured buttercream is much more forgiving than a perfectly smooth frosting or fondant, making it a smart choice for a DIY wedding cake. A piped dot border between the layers and at the base of the cake help give it a finished, professional look. Keep the frosting white for a traditional look or tint it to coordinate with your wedding colors for a fun, whimsical look. DIY pinwheels are the ideal topper for a this playful wedding cake. Get step-by-step instructions for both the cake and the pinwheels below!



Cost: about $31 (around £19.10)

Serves: about 50 guests


  • 2x 14-16-inch cake rounds
  • 2x 12-inch cake rounds
  • Buttercream frosting
  • Food coloring
  • Instructions

    1. Begin by tinting your frosting to the color of your choice. Gel food colors are great for making deep, rich colors by using even a small amount. They also come in a wide variety of colors that can be blended to make your own custom shades.
    2. Place one of the large cake rounds on your cake plate. Using an offset spatula, spread a thin layer of buttercream over the top.
    3. Repeat the process with the second large cake round and then the remaining two 12-inch layers.
    4. Once the entire cake is stacked, spread a thin layer of frosting over the entire cake, beginning at the top, and working your way down. This is called a crumb coat.
    5. Chill the cake to set the crumb coat before moving to the decorative frosting step.
    6. After the cake has chilled, generously spread frosting over the crumb coat. Use an offset spatula to create deep, spackle-like swirls into the surface of the frosting.
    7. Finally, finish the bottom edges of the cake with a decorative border. Fill a pastry bag fitted with a round tip with your tinted frosting. Holding the bag at a 45-degree angle, apply even pressure to squeeze out dots of icing along the base of each layer. Rotate the cake as you go.
    8. Keep the frosted and decorated cake cool before serving.
    9. When it’s time to display the cake, decorate the top with a collection of DIY paper pinwheels. Get instructions for making these pinwheel cake toppers.

    Our Cake & Frosting Recipe Picks

    Many grocery stores and bakeries will let you purchase baked, unfrosted cake rounds, but if you’re comfortable in the kitchen, it’s simple to bake them yourself! We adore Smitten Kitchen’s recipes for Chocolate Butter Cake and Vanilla Buttermilk Cake.

    Savory Sweet Life has an uncomplicated recipe for Classic Vanilla Buttercream Frosting. For a snow white version, try substituting the unsalted butter for shortening and adding a 1/2 teaspoon of butter flavoring. Using clear vanilla extract and butter flavoring will also help prevent your frosting from becoming slightly tinted.

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    It’s best to tint a large amount of frosting at once (more than enough for the entire cake), because if you tint your frosting in batches, it can be hard to match and there may be slight variations in your colors.


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Paddington_Bear_Small_DogThis week Small Dog has well and truly been on his travels, starting with a trip down to Cornwall to sniff out Ice Cream and Pasties and then a trip on the high seas across to the land of Poodles and Frog’s legs. Now Small Dog has always been a good traveller and a keen adventurer (well, as long as the adventure involves near constant attention for him, plenty of food and all other dogs bowing down before him) but never before has he travelled to a foreign land nor crossed an ocean to get there…

Fortunately for Small Dog the journey started fairly simply. Having already brushed up on his French whilst in Cornwall (Le Woof seemed to cover most eventualities) and signed his newly obtained Paddy Passport Small Dog quickly packed his bowl, spare collar and squeaky rubber chicken into his trademark brown suitcase and was ready and waiting as the humans flapped about, flinging things in cases and stressing over whether they’d brought enough teabags. Whilst evidently a bit miffed to be departing the south coast whilst there still remained territories that he had yet to mark as his own, Small Dog eventually hit the road once again and prepared to board a boat that seemed quite considerably bigger than those rowing boats he’d swum past in the boating lake that time.

Now the worrying part of this journey for the humans was that this was an overnight ferry on which it was expected that all “pets” should remain in their car. There was much concern that Paddington may not be comfortable or that he could become scared being on his own in a car overnight, but sadly as the nasty people at customs seemed to think that Small Dog was indeed some kind of “pet” and that the rules shouldn’t be adaptable based solely on personality. So as the humans went up to enjoy the luxurious ferry facilities and a great night’s sleep Small Dog was left alone below deck.

Now as the humans fretted about the Small Dog’s well-being, Paddington himself, quite used to falling asleep in the car, decided it was about time to have a well-earned and quite comfortable snooze. The humans meanwhile were facing an altogether different proposition…

It would seem that luxury trans-channel travel isn’t quite what it’s cracked up to be. Indeed as team Bride Vs Groom sat down to start some late night blogging and editing they found that their tea supply was quickly removed as, 10 minutes into the journey the one and only bar was closed. Luckily though there was still a shop open, helpfully selling all kinds of sun-screen and british memorabilia but not so much as a Kendal mint-cake to eat or drink. Still there was always the broken vending machine to look at. However whilst the catering may not have been quite up to scratch at least, unlike Small Dog, the humans would not be suffering with having to try to sleep in the back of a car. No, instead they had luxurious reclining chairs to relax and snooze in as the ferry slowly floated across the tranquil waters. Well, ok reclining may be a strong word but at least they had comfortable chairs, sorry uncomfortable chairs and what must surely be a darkened room to sleep in. Well, dark if you discount the floodlights shining into everyone’s eyes. At least though the one guy who did get to sleep wasn’t a snorer… oh, wait.

Nonetheless eventually the ship sailed into port and the surprisingly weary humans returned to greet their waiting, well rested and excited master in the car ready to continue on into Poodleland.

As the car pulled out Small Dog started to notice many strange smells in the air and was slightly concerned about what exactly this place was. A faint hint of onions and garlic were perhaps the most intriguing but he decided to carry on regardless.

After what seemed like an eternity finally they pulled up at Paddington’s new Gite in the Normandy countryside and he was relieved to find that his garden had been well prepared for his arrival, although Hugo, a local French dog didn’t initially seem to recognise Small Dog’s superiority despite his inferior height. Still, Small Dog quickly set about claiming everything in sight as his own and was happy enough to curl up with a familiar smell in that waistcoat Matt sometimes wears when carrying cameras around. A few adjustments were necessary, but fortunately the fabric was very flexible in this regard. And, after roaming the French countryside for a few days Small Dog was very happy to consider France for his holidays again in the future.

Now for the journey back…


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We love the dancing at the end of a wedding and, with our resident lighting geek Matt choosing this week’s shot we couldn’t resist sharing this moment from Andrea & Jamie’s big day at London’s Syon Park. The whole of the Great Conservatory at the park was lit spectacularly for the evening reception and this gorgeous moment from the first dance just caught the spectacle of the day perfectly.
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