These days you can get married in all kinds of venues of all shapes and sizes. But when it comes to choosing your venue it’s important to remember that you might not be the only bride and groom holding your wedding there that day, albeit in a different part of the building. But just how important is exclusivity in the grand scheme of things? We figured it was time we went head to head, Bride Vs Groom, to find out!
In the Red Corner, fighting for venue exclusivity, well… if she saw a good photo she wouldn’t be able to resist taking it even if it wasn’t the right wedding… it’s Dom “The Tog Bride”.
In the Blue Corner, making the case for allowing shared use, although perhaps he shouldn’t as he once actually did almost start filming the wrong wedding before realising his was on the other side of the hotel, it’s Matt “The Gormless Groom”.
The Venue – Exclusive Vs Shared
Dom: The bride should be the centre of attention on her wedding day and it’s her chance to feel like the most beautiful girl in the world for the day – an illusion that’s rather spoiled if you keep bumping into other brides!
Matt: But isn’t it more important to get the venue that you really want than worry about seeing another bride? Not every venue offers exclusivity and so you may end up having to find a completely different venue which may not be the one you dreamed about.
Dom: But it’s not just about the bride, this is your big day and you want it to feel special and sacred, not that you’re “just another wedding”. Do you really want your guests doing a direct comparison between your wedding ideas and the one next door? Or random strangers popping up to watch you get married?
Matt: Hiring a venue for your exclusive use can be extremely expensive, particularly for hotels if you’re looking to hire all the bedrooms for guests as well. It’s an awful lot cheaper to share.
Dom: If more than one event is going on the staff’s attention is likely to be split and you may not get that exclusive service you expect on your wedding day.
Matt: But in all likelihood having only one event means they’re actually just going to have less staff on for the evening which can be even worse as if you do need someone to jump in for any reason there wouldn’t be anyone spare to do it leading to much worse customer service.
Dom: It’s much easier for the guests to chat to people they don’t know and break the ice if they know that everyone is actually part of the wedding and not just a random stranger. It’s also easier for the photographer/videographer as they know they’re focussing on the right people, meaning they can get shots of all of your guests without fear that they’re photographing people who have nothing to do with the wedding.
Matt: If you don’t need exclusivity then you’re far more likely to be able to have your wedding on your ideal date as you can share the date with others rather than being turned away because another couple have already booked.
Dom: If you have also booked all of the accommodation on site then you can often keep the party going longer into the night as there are no other guests to disturb and you’re also all there the following morning for a nice send-off breakfast!
Matt: But the accommodation may again be extremely expensive and your guests may also feel obliged to stay there because you’ve booked it even if they could get a better deal elsewhere. There’s also the chance there won’t be enough room for everyone and those that can’t stay may feel they’re missing out.
So those are our arguments but where do you stand? As ever you can place your votes below or leave a comment to join the debate!