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A Photographer’s Thoughts: Going Unplugged

These days everyone’s a photographer. We each carry on our person a camera at all times and you can be tagged so fast on Facebook that you can find out online that you’re in the same room as someone before you’ve even had chance to look up. Digital technology is changing the way we think about photography and cameras are literally everywhere. It’s not just limited to camera-phones, now that you no longer need a dark room, a huge tolerance for lots of stinking chemicals and a small fortune to waste accidentally taking pictures of your finger, everyday users can now afford the kind of camera technology that once resided solely in the hands of the professional photographer.

Nowhere is this more evident than at a wedding. Everyone wants to have their own pictures of the Bride and Groom to take home with them, to publish on Facebook and to share with anyone who wasn’t able to make it. The ability to share our experiences in such a visual way is a remarkable thing and you can often end up with some cool, fun shots of you and your mates to look back on afterwards and even a few special ones that might be treasured by the bride and groom.

However, the camera revolution does have its drawbacks…

The Paparazzi await the Bride and Groom…
Photo by York Place Studios

Too many cooks may spoil the broth, but too many photographers stops the shot from ever happening in the first place. Most couples will have hired a professional photographer to capture their wedding and ensure they have stunning shots from all the best angles throughout the day, but increasingly the professionals are struggling to fight their way through a crowd of cameras to get the shot they’re after. It can become almost a Paparazzi-like battle for the best position with flashes going off everywhere and in the end no-one, including the professional photographer, ends up with a decent photograph to show for it all.

The problem is being exacerbated with the advent of tablet computers with built-in cameras. Whilst you might be able to work around a camera the size of a mobile phone, try getting a clean shot with someone holding an iPad at arms length in front of them and you’ll see what we mean. Camera flashes can also be a major problem. Photography is effectively the manipulation of light to create an image and photographers are very careful to set up the optimum light settings to create the mood and texture they want in their pictures. If a miss-timed flash goes off at the same time they hit the shutter all those settings count for nothing and, depending on the type of shot they were going for, they may end up with nothing but a white blur. Then of course there’s the notorious ‘uncle bob’ amateur photographer who likes nothing more than speaking to the professional about their camera equipment whilst following them around and removing any chance of their being discrete and capturing natural shots. Their equipment is also often so professional looking that they’re mistakenly seen by the guests as the official photographer which can lead to further problems with mistaken identity, particularly with certain venues who have taken the extreme step of banning all photography including those by the official photographer from taking place during the ceremony after bad previous experiences with proceedings being interrupted by amateur photographers.

It’s not so much the act of taking photographs itself that can be such a problem however. The problem is often more that the people you’re trying to take a picture of are themselves holding a camera to their face, making for multiple photographs of people taking photographs rather than of happy guests enjoying the day.

Our own Father of the Groom accidentally hiding his face…
Image by Ed Peers

Now don’t get us wrong here, we enjoy taking out our iPhones and taking a few snaps probably more than most, but it’s important to remember that someone is being paid a lot of money by the couple to do that very job for them and that even if you do get a few nice images there is a huge difference in overall quality between amateur and professional photographs, and the couple are looking for a complete story of the day consistent in quality, style and texture rather than just two or three great images that don’t relate to the rest of the pictures from the day. It’s kind of like walking into fracture clinic at the hospital with some triangular bandages and putting slings on all the patients… it may be great practice for your first aid, they might be top quality bandages and might even help a few patients, but overall people would probably rather the doctor did it…

The problem has led to a lot of couples taking matters into their own hands and banning guests from taking any pictures at all on the wedding day and holding a so-called “unplugged” wedding, taking the focus away from the cameras and back onto the Bride and Groom where it belongs. This removes any concerns about guests accidentally getting in the way of the official photographs and gives the professional the freedom to get the shots they need unimpeded. For the couple it also means they’re less likely to spend their entire day posing for pictures and can spend more time actually enjoying the happiest day of their lives.

But if cameras are banned, who’s going to get those fun, relaxed and often ridiculous shots that can really only be taken by one friend of another? And most photographers disappear after the first dance –  who’s going to record the late-night revelries? Perhaps we need to find a middle ground…

After-dinner cameras
Image by Ed Peers

The fact is that during the key parts of the day – the ceremony, the speeches, first dance, cutting of the cake etc. there only really needs to be one photographer and most pros are probably perfectly happy for you to share their photographs online with all your friends and family just as you would your own pics. As a guest you’re there to enjoy the day live, not miss the action taking hundreds of pictures to look at it later, that’s why someone else is there to do it for you. But outside of those key parts of the day taking a few fun shots on your compact or even trying your hand as an aspiring amateur is generally harmless and can be a lot of fun… in fact for our own wedding we actually handed out old film cameras and polaroids after dinner for the guests to have a bit of fun with and give us some completely different types of photograph to laugh at later…

At the end of the day taking pictures can be a lot of fun and there’s definitely a time and place for it, even on a wedding day. But it’s important to remember that this is the Bride and Groom’s big day, not a free-for-all photo-shoot. If a professional photographer’s being paid lots of money solely to capture the best photographs of the day it’s fruitless getting in the way of that solely to capture something vaguely similar on a slightly different device. Digital technology is undoubtedly a fantastic thing, but on the most important day of two people’s lives, sometimes it’s better to just go unplugged.

To read more about the advantages and disadvantages of the Unplugged wedding you can find our Friday Fight-Out on this topic here: Guest Photography Vs Pro Only

  • Helen Lisk - June 25, 2013 - 8:00 am

    Brilliant article Dom – it’s the best explanation and write up that I’ve seen on this subject, so thank you, I will be sharing it with all my couples! xReplyCancel

  • Jaye Cole | Tux & Tales Photography - June 25, 2013 - 10:38 am

    Amen!

    I am a big cheer for the middle ground. I think there is DEFINITELY a time and a place for guest photos. And there is definitely a time to let the pro do what they are paid for and instead be a guest and fulfill your role as a person brought to the occasion to WITNESS the event (rather than document it). I think an all-out ban would be a bit sad for many guests who are having fun taking photos of family/friends they do not often see.

    I think it is a tricky grey area because there is not ‘book of manners’ on how to use new technologies and instead common sense has been thrown out the window and it has become a free-for-all. People should stop for a moment and consider their potential impact on others around them.

    First and foremost – I think it sends a message to the B&G that their wedding is so dull that you must do something like fidget with your gadget the entire time in order to stay engaged. 🙁

    During the ceremony…. put your gadget down. Be THERE. Be PRESENT. Be in the MOMENT. That is, afterall, why you were invited as a guest and not paid to be the photographer.

    But during the evening party – get out your gizmo and have a great time. It is a party afterall!ReplyCancel

  • Michael - Bohemian Weddings - June 25, 2013 - 12:17 pm

    Thank you for the article guys! The subject is something that is often difficult to deal with or approach so it’s great to ensure other photographers as well as wedding couples aware of it. What great idea to supply the guests with cameras for the evening, I could see this working well if a couple decides to ban cameras during the day 🙂

    We have found two things that can really help us as photographers and it’s something couples should be aware of when booking their photographer. Firstly (and this is where experience and professionalism comes in) organisation for us is key. Knowing when events will be happening, when people will be arriving, when the first speech will be starting all helps. Getting the right photographer means you are more likely to get the each event covered!

    Secondly we always approach the subject of wedding guests having cameras with our couples. For some it’s not an issue and all part of the day, but on the whole the most popular way to deal with the issue is to ban cameras during the ceremony only. A polite reading at the beginning of the ceremony can work wonders…. saying something like ‘ we would like you all to be in the moment with us, so we request that cameras are put away for the duration of the ceremony’.

    I’m off now to share this article 🙂ReplyCancel

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