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Welcome to this week’s (slightly delayed) Friday Fight-Out! We may be a day late but as this week’s debate is all about whether to opt for a Friday or Saturday wedding it’s perhaps rather appropriate! But you’ve waited long enough so let’s get down to this debating business!


In the Red Corner, arguing for the more orthodox Saturday wedding, she was never much of a Saturday shopper after all, it’s Dom “The Tog Bride”

In the Blue Corner, arguing for a Friday wedding which is definitely completely unrelated in any way to any football matches that may or may not be played on a Saturday (come on your reds!) it’s Matt “The Gormless Groom”

Friday Vs Saturday Wedding

Friday Vs Saturday

Dom: More of your guests are likely to be available on a Saturday than a Friday, it’s the weekend, time to relax and be away from work for most people!

Matt: But actually so many people work weekends these days how much better really is it? Many of my friends for example would find it much easier to take a Friday off than a Saturday, it really just depends on what you do for a living!

Dom: Saturday is the day that people traditionally expect you to get married on and you might find some suppliers only work weekends.

Matt: Saturdays tend to be much more popular dates than Fridays making it considerably more difficult to get the venue, band, caterers, photographers, videographers etc that you really want to book than on the comparatively quiet Friday.

Dom: But many of those suppliers will still have a wedding on the Saturday anyway which may well make it logistically impossible for them to be part of your Friday wedding as well, so there’s often no advantage.

Matt: Getting married on the Friday means you can make a full weekend of it – invite people to stay locally and spend Saturday nearby too so they can drive home on the Sunday and enjoy longer with your friends and family as well as making it a nice weekend break for the guests too!

Dom: If your guests have children who are at school it may be very difficult for them to get away on a Friday and they may find themselves having to pay lots of money for babysitters which could make it prohibitively expensive or difficult for them to attend.

Matt: Friday weddings are often considerably cheaper as for some suppliers they are “bonus” weddings on days that they wouldn’t expect to book and they can therefore afford to do it slightly cheaper.

Dom: Saturdays tend to be easier to travel as there’s less rush hour traffic and for those needing to travel up the night before it’s usually easier to get away from work early on a Friday than a Thursday as everyone’s already winding down on a Friday!

Matt: For destination weddings it’s often more expensive to fly or stay in a hotel at the weekend and so it is often better to go for a Friday or midweek wedding than a Saturday.

So those are our thoughts but where do you stand? Leave a comment or place your vote!

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Dom Matt Pad Photo Video1We’re sorry for the radio silence lately on Bride Vs Groom, now being the time when the crazy world of weddings tend to quiet down a little we thought we’d take our opportunity to relax by rebuilding websites (including this one…coming soon!), continuing to edit and travel madly all over the place in an effort to improve ourselves and seek additional inspiration for the coming year… relaxing right?

Over the last week though we’ve had a particularly exciting time! A little while ago we were invited by some photographer friends to take part in the amazing Nine Dots photography workshops but we were involved not as participants or as workshop leaders but as models for the day! As regular Bride Vs Groom readers will know this is something we’ve now done a few times for various workshops, presumably because in photographing me the workshop attendees can be shown what to do to make even the most challenging of subjects to look good!

Being on the other side of the lens though is always a fascinating experience for the two of us as photographers and videographers, particularly being shot by photographers with a differing style but similar philosophy to our own. Learning what it feels like for a bride and groom to be photographed, what feels comfortable or uncomfortable, what feels natural or too controlled, where the lines blur between a great shot for the photographer and a great shot for the couple. The most important message of this particular workshop though was all about passion and finding your voice…

Finding your own style, fighting the urge to imitate and being the best version of yourself is one of the hardest things to do in life. It doesn’t matter whether it’s finding your style as a photographer or figuring out the type of wedding you want to have as a bride and groom, so often we all take the easy choice to please everyone rather than make the often more difficult decision to take a risk on making choices that make us happy too. The four amazing photographers that together form Nine Dots each have a clear voice in their work, a recognisable and coherent style and yet it’s clear that even they don’t feel they have completed their journey to being exactly the photographers they want to be. What they do know though is that if and when they feel they’ve taken the best shot of their careers it’s time to go out and take something better. To get to where you want to be in life takes passion, it takes a commitment to ride through the hard times and stay focussed on the good. It’s a journey that never fully ends but that has only one direction: forwards.

Last year was professionally undoubtedly one of the most successful we’ve had and we’ve been incredibly excited by everything we’ve been up to. So how did we celebrate? By rebranding our businesses to something that we felt better reflected who we really are then jetting off to Italy for Dom to follow one of her passions, Street Photography. The aim was to practice shooting in a style that she wants to bring more into her work and be inspired by her surroundings and desire to be better not just as a wedding photographer but as a photographer in general. Trips to Amsterdam and New York will be following soon and we can’t wait to see what we can learn about ourselves along the way.

So whatever it is you love, just DO IT. Be original, be yourself, be the person you in your heart want to be. It may not come easy but it’s time to start the journey, and when you do you won’t want to stand still or look back. Be inspired by life and everything else will fall into place.


p.s. for all our photographer readers, if you want a little inspiration to help you on your way get yourselves to the next Nine Dots workshop, I left inspired and I’m not even a photographer!!

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Dom Matt Pad Photo Video1Hello from Italy lovely Bride Vs Groom readers!

We’re over in Rome right now: the land of history, architecture and apparently selfie-sticks! But, having found ourselves a little cafe with wifi to enjoy a pizza (when in Rome right?) we thought we’d stop and say hello to you lovely lot!

The reason for our visit is that we’ve decided it’s time we spent a little more time following some of our passions outside of the work we love and, with Dom a firm lover of street photography, we’ve hit the streets of the Italian capitol in search of images that inspire us. Photography and filming may be our day job but sometimes in the midst of capturing so many wonderful weddings it’s easy to forget to shoot images just for ourselves rather than our couples and this year we plan to correct all that! So we’re off again now to hit some more inspiring parts of the city so we’ll say ciao for now and leave you with one of our favourite images of the trip so far! Small Dog would be proud…

Rome 1

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For the last couple of days we’ve been down in London acting as models for the amazing Nine Dots Photography workshop which has been an incredible experience. And as we’ve been listening to some great photographers talking with such passion about wedding photography it got us thinking again about the best way to keep and display your images after the big day. So today we thought we’d revisit a rather important Friday Fight-out from a few years ago: Photographic Memories, Print Vs Digital…

In a world that’s gone digital mad; a world where everyone carries a camera on their phone 24/7, where online Facebook and Flickr albums make sharing your pictures fast and easy and where iPads and digital photo frames can display all of your photographs on endless rotation in crisp high definition, in this modern world is there any real point in printing your photographs? Isn’t print that just an outdated media? Let’s find out as we suit up our armour, mount our trusty steeds and prepare our weapons for… The Friday Fight-Out!!!


Photographic Memories – Print Vs Digital

In the Red Corner, representing printed media, seemingly with plans to more or less coat all of the walls in our house with our wedding pictures, she works with some of the finest album makers in the world, it’s Dom “The Tog” Bride.

In the Blue Corner, he’s finally reclaimed his ipad from Dom, has become a little bit obsessed with Snapseed and Instagram and hasn’t got around to printing any pictures since 2008 when he printed a huge poster of John Terry missing a penalty in the Champions League Final and sent it to his Chelsea loving Uncle, it’s Matt “The Gormless” Groom.


Dom: Your wedding photographs are something you want to treasure forever. They’re not just some Facebook picture of you and your mates out for a drink, this is the most important day of your lives, something you want to treasure, to keep safe, to show your grandkids in your old age. For me your the photos should be kept safe in something tangible, something beautiful, an album that you can be proud to own. It may be easier to store images digitally but they don’t give you the same feeling and that’s important.

Matt: Images taken digitally somehow seem to belong in a digital world. These days you expect to get a lot more wedding photographs than in the days of film photography and you simply can’t fit them all in a printed album. Photographers tend to provide CD’s or even USB disks in very nice presentation boxes for you to keep them safe and have that feeling of ownership, but at the same time you can (depending on the copyright)  stick them up on Facebook and share them with your friends and let people comment on them which is a really amazing thing!

Printed media doesn’t just mean albums. Having your wedding pictures up on the wall or around the house can be a lovely decoration and an amazing constant reminder of your special day. Having them printed on canvas, blockmounts or photo blocks can make them extra special and also make great presents for family members!

Matt: But digital media can now do the same but with far more flexibility! Smart TVs are now so thin and practically edgeless that they almost look like photo frames and can be mounted on the wall in much the same way. They can be used to run slideshows of all your pictures rather than just one and be a real talking point and can be bought for a similar amount as a decent album. Tablet computers or digital photo frames are also a great way of doing the same kind of thing and there are more things that you can do with them.

Dom: But with the possible exception of digital photo frames you’re not realistically going to have them running all the time and a digital screen somehow just doesn’t have the same feel as a printed image. You can’t touch the page, feel the picture. It’s the same as with a book: Digital e-readers like Kindle’s are brilliant for convenience but most of the time I’d still rather have a worn tatty book that I’ve had for years and can remember the smell of the print; something that I have an emotional attachment to. A digital picture engages just one of the senses: sight. A printed image engages sight, smell and touch and whether we realise it or not our bodies remember each.

Matt: Print fades over time and it can be easily damaged. Imagine how mortified you’d be if anything happened to your wedding album! Keeping them in digital form means you can back them up all over the place!

Dom: But technology also changes at a rate of knots! Not so long ago the high-tech way of displaying your images was to put them on 35mm slides and project them with a slide projector. Now that technology is so old that barely anyone has the means to actually show their slides. Although media is nearly always transferable by some means you have to invest a lot of time keeping up and changing your images before the next big technology advance renders all of your digital images useless!

Matt: That was certainly true of old technology, but it’s much easier to adapt and change a digital image to another format than to change something that’s in print. Photo sharing has now taken on such mass popularity that the technology is always going to have to allow users to easily update their images into new formats or there would be a mass outcry!

We’d love to know where you stand on this argument, to join the debate leave your comment below or find us on twitter!

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matt-avatar WhitenedThis morning, whilst brushing my teeth with some new-fangled technobizzle gadget I realised something: there is basically virtually nothing I do anymore that doesn’t involve technology in some way. My “never leave house without” is undoubtedly my phone (and probably my laptop given I’m CONSTANTLY EDITING!!). My desk has not one but three screens sitting on it. My car is equipped with Sat Navs and iPods and even when I abandon automated travel and go for a countryside walk with my wife we all know it’s no longer about just enjoying the fresh air, it’s about getting up my step count so that I can have a sodding Mars Bar (or believe I can have a Mars Bar right up until the point I scan the barcode and realise my iPhone’s going to tell me off no matter how many flights of stairs I climb.

Now I love my gadgets and have based much of my career on ways of using technology but can all these gizmobytes really be good for our lives? Particularly when merely trying to write the (admittedly previously non-existent) word gizmobytes takes at least 30 attempts to get past auto-correct I’M MAKING UP WORDS JUST GO WITH IT STUPID COMPUTER!!! My 7 year old nephew is now official consultant to his father when it comes to how to do something on an iPad and not once has he ever been told to get off the internet so his mum can make a phone call (man I miss the terrible screech of a 56K Modem… happy days, happy days.) Is technology enriching our lives? To find out I decided to byte (get it?) the bullet and ask the now ultimate force in the galaxy….

smartwatch“Siri, do you think technology is a good thing?”

The answer that came back was not the one I expected but was nonetheless abundantly clear in its message:

“I think, therefore I am. But let’s not put Descartes before the horse.”

My phone is officially more witty than I am. Buggar. Yes, yes I know it’s spelt with an ‘e’ autocorrect, this is a minor rebellion, you know, in the style of that guy… whats his face… you know…

Oh sod it, Siri google that for me would you?

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This week we thought it was time we took another look at a topic it’s a long time since we last visited: the wedding teepee vs the wedding marquee. Both venues can be set up pretty much anywhere you need them and provide plenty of space for any number of guests but which is the better way to go? Let’s see if we can find out!


In the Red Corner, she can’t get enough of capturing weddings beneath the canvas folds so arguing for the rustic Teepee it’s Dom ” The Tog” Bride

In the Blue Corner, fighting for the great British Marquee, as a former events lighting and sound technician he’s worked in more than his fair share of them it’s Matt “The Gormless Groom”

Marquee Vs Teepee


Dom: Teepees just look so cool! Marquees are lovely but have become relatively common and used for a variety of purposes. How often do you see a huge Teepee in everyday life?! As soon as guests see it they’re always blown away – it provides a great talking point to get the reception started!

Matt: Marquees are basically a blank canvas to allow you to create whatever look you want. They can be laid out and added to in various formats and accessorised inside and out. They offer a huge amount of flexibility to create whatever design you’d like whereas a teepee really creates one standard look.

Dom: But the lesser need for decoration is one of the huge advantages! The Teepee itself is so dramatic that you don’t need to spend a long time trying to create a certain style and they can also be joined in different formats to create the size you require. Without decoration and nice lining a marquee does just look like a tent and needs a lot of work to make it special.

Matt: Marquees are extremely strong and can support a surprising amount of weight. This means that you can do some very elaborate lighting in a marquee and make it look really amazing. In fact, having lit lots of marquees there are actually more useful hanging points than in most permanent structures so they’re one of the best in this regard!

Dom: Teepees do offer nice lighting options too though! The ones I’ve been in tend to have a circle of lights in each of the cylindrical roofs, also helping to light up the canvas and make it look even more dramatic at night.

Matt: Marquees can have windows! In fact you can replace entire walls (and even the roof!) with window panels if you prefer, allowing you to make best use of natural light and to really enjoy your surroundings! Teepees don’t tend to have this option and rely more heavily on artificial light and large openings which let the heat out!

Dom: But Teepees compensate for any loss of heat with a nice roaring feature fire in the middle, something I’ve never seen in a marquee as it’s only possible due to the teepee shape!

Matt: If you’re looking for the garden party style wedding then the classic marquee is the look to go for! The teepee is a very rustic look and fits a particular style of wedding where the marquee’s flexibility makes for a more generic venue.

Dom: Despite their dramatic appearance Teepees somehow fit beautifully into the natural environment around them. The canvas colour and traditional design feel very rustic and it can look more in tune with its surroundings than a big white marquee.

Matt: Teepees seem to be generally quite a bit more expensive than Marquees to hire and so, along with the cost of hiring wherever the teepee is to be located, will definitely have a major impact on your budget.

So what do you think? Marquee vs Teepee: place your vote below!

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