The other day Dom asked me about what I thought she should do with her wedding dress. Should she keep it, should she sell it, should she do something more crazy with it? After all she’s never going to wear it again, although to be honest, this being the second dress related Friday Fight-Out in a row (both at Dom’s suggestion) I’m pretty sure she wants to!
Anyway, it strikes me that this is a dilemma faced by pretty much every couple after the big day, so we thought it was about time we stepped into the ring and tried to settle the matter once and for all! So let’s take a look at the arguments: is the dress something that should be kept and treasured forever, or is it time to sell or, more spectacularly, time for a crazy trash the dress shoot?
Let’s meet the contestants!
Treasure Vs Trash
In the Red corner, mostly trying to find an excuse to wear her dress again and therefore talking up the “Trash the Dress” shoot… although to be honest she did a pretty good job of trashing it on the day itself! It’s Dom “The Tog Bride”
In the Blue corner, feeling that even with only a very rough idea of how much Dom’s dress might have actually cost it should probably be placed in a glass display case and worshipped daily… therefore arguing to keep it safe, it’s Matt “The Gormless Groom”
Dom: You’re never going to have the chance to wear your dress again so what’s the point in keeping it? Either getting a little money back for it, or alternatively giving it one last hurrah with a Trash the dress shoot is surely better than it gathering dust!
Matt: You spend so much time and money building up to your wedding day, but when it’s over there’s very little of the “stuff” that you get to keep! Apart from photos and videos the dress is probably the one big purchase that you have the chance to hold onto as a keepsake of the best day of your life.
Dom: A trash the dress shoot is a chance to use your dress again to get a completely different set of photographs in a very different style from your wedding. It’s another really amazing day and allows the dress to keep on giving – providing you with more awesome, memorable photos.
Matt: Why would you wreck something you’ve spent SO much money on!!??
Dom: If your dress is still in good condition after your day then you can actually often sell them for a significant amount. When you’ve spent so much money on it it’s great to be able to get a lot of that money back, and in a recession second hand dresses are often the best choice for lots of brides out there.
Matt: The wedding dress often becomes something of an heirloom Who knows, maybe one day your daughter might wear the same gown on her own special day.
Dom: Passing on your dress to someone else is something kind of special, particularly when it’s someone you really care about. A dress is designed to be worn and it’s something you think about so much; giving someone else the chance to use it kind of creates a strange bond between you.
Matt: I think the dress is one of those things that just after the day doesn’t seem to matter but becomes so much more important later on when you’re looking back on your day. It is a huge expense but part of why it’s worth it is that it is something that you keep forever and one day show to your grandchildren.
Dom: How about trashing the dress in a whole other way? Instead of getting it professionally cleaned and put in a box, how about getting it cleaned and dyed so you can use it again as a whole other dress? Now THAT is going to be your new favourite go-to dress!
Matt: The old tradition used to be that the trashing of the dress would come only to make Christening outfits for your kids, which I think’s a really cool idea and really makes it even more special (and easier to store!)
So, those are the arguments as we see them but what do you think? Are you thinking about doing something different with your dress after the day? Is your dress locked up safely in the attic? We’d love to hear your thoughts on the debate! Leave a comment below or catch us on Facebook or Twitter
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